Many times, people misunderstand survivors, and think we hate pedophiles more than anyone else. I was never sexually abused, and I am a pedophile. I am a traumatic pedophile, meaning it is the mode of my trauma, in thread format. I have mapped my psyche out from top to bottom, and have to for my survival and that which is for children. How does one accept a pedophile.
Most pedophiles are not narcissists, unlike what anti-children's rights crusaders think. Pedophilia denotes a parental thread, meaning one conflated with sexual aggression. Thus, it is an expressed childhood trauma as well, as childhood trauma, in the brain, is conflated with some form of parental aggression. A pedophile is a parent, meaning an antisocial parents.
How is one sensitive to someone with the condition? They admit "I don't get it" in a calm, distant manner, when they hear about it, and then, if they are closer to the individual with the disorder, listen in a reflective and validating. No non-pedophile will ever understand what it is like to be a pedophile, and when you admit you don't understand, you are being sensitive.
Privilege over a pedophile is "I don't understand" in terms of situation, meaning you don't know what it is like, and you express such in a concerned manner, like a child coming down with pneumonia. That is because that is how an ordinary non-pedophile would see things.
If you praise me too much about my condition, I think you want something from me. Pedophilia is not a condition worthy of praise, and most non-pedophiles see the condition that way, so a more natural type of reassurance and validation is more credible in terms of sensitivity.
Most here are being sensitive to my condition, meaning they simply are listening in, and are concerned. However, they, like most people who know about that condition of mine, admit that they don't understand, but in a humanizing way. I interpret it as being respectful of a privilege boundary, as assuming things about it for simply my own good, for "cure" purposes, is abuse of pedophiles. I haven't experienced anything like that here.
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