How trauma-based therapy for pedophiles works

 I myself am not your average child advocate, in that I have pedophilic disorder. Not officially diagnosed, but officially noted, and I have self-diagnosed as a pedophile. Most people do not hate pedophiles, so much as not know what pedophilia is. They think it is some compelling urge. In a minority of cases, it is, but in the majority of cases, we can prevent child abuse by listening reflectively to pedophiles. 

Ordinary trauma requires in-depth listening, meaning the therapist sort of reaches in and rebuilds what is broken. Therapy isn't like that for the pedophile, even with a trauma-informed professional. The therapist stands by, gives parenting and caregiving advice on how to avoid sexually abusing a child. Usually, it is "you might want to think about..." such as "you might want to think about distancing yourself from these girls, because its not healthy" and giving reasons such as "there are norms". I actually defied my therapist, but then bounced back up, and then she started referring to me as a parent. 

The anti-pedophile designation for this is parent/pedophile, meaning the parent status comes first, but it is conflated with a pedophile, meaning that is how we treat the issue - ignore the pedophile, but know it is there, and impart good, evidence-based information about why abuse is wrong. My therapist is doing things right, meaning was from the very beginning.

A parent is a stubborn, litigious entity attached to a human being, and does not take kindly to advice, often in a paternalistic way in relation to children. The pedophile, meaning clinically defined as such, is not paternalistic towards children generally, but is a false advocate instead by default. A pedophile, like any parent, needs facts in order to thrive, hopefully posited in a reassuring way that nonetheless affirms accountability in sexually entitled parents/adults.

Yes, trauma-based therapy helps ALL traumatic parents, including traumatic pedophile/parents such as myself towards children. I myself observe myself to be a universal parent to all children, in ombudsman format. If a child tells me their opinion, I do not affix it to all children but just that one. If there is a trend in child opinion, I change my position. This except in cases of abuse, where the logic is the reverse - if one child could perceive it as abuse, perhaps many could, perhaps all could, so do not engage in that behavior around a child again, even if it is a "good long look", because whatever the child target/victim perceives as abuse objectively is, regardless of adult opinion.