"Powerless to his urges": Why focus on "driven" aspects of abusers is an excuse for abuse

 I am anti-pornography to the core, meaning I hate the online sexual exploitation of women and children, including that which is commercial in nature. A common belief is that a pedophile cannot fully be rehabilitated because "he has insatiable urges for carnal child flesh". Nope, not me. Not I, pedophile. I have choices in life. Many media outlets do not realize how such feigned survivor and feminist rhetoric actually enables sexual abuse against children. We pedophiles aren't powerless in terms of child protection, we are powerful, not over others, but ourselves. We are proud of abstaining from sexual abuse and immorality.

How can one understand the ease of a pedophile choose not to abuse? Certain parents will understand more than others, but picture why you don't kill or suffocate your child even when you are angry and infuriated by their child's behavior. Imagine, if you are an anti-spanking or non-spanking parent, refraining from not spanking or shouting at a child is kind of the same thing as, if I were a father, not touching or groping a daughter I was fixated on.

What would lead to me to abusing a child? Belief that it was okay or not harmful. Wanting a relationship with a specific child. Being alone or in closed quarters with said child target. It isn't a "driven" event, as I might foresee with myself, in hypothetical format. It would be a choice, much like date rape is a choice and not an "urge" or "instinct" to overpower a woman.

Saying "they can't help it" or even "they need to learn to control it" is a false depiction of what pedophilia actually is. It gives abusers an excuse for their abuse, just like banning simulated child abuse images sends the message "the porn made me do it". No, no amount of fantasy or pornography (a brief, unhealthy stage, in fact - at age 18) made me behave in a sexually entitled and untoward manner towards a child target/victim.

A pedophile is a parent, and is wired, in the brain, as a sexually attached parent, meaning the wick of attachment is a strand of sexual desire, usually expressing itself by way of connotational attraction, usually restrained at a level where it is insignificant to everyone except the pedophile, and made aware to the pedophile starting in their mid-teens. Most have a traumatic grudge against having the disorder, usually anti-theistic in nature, or else grew up without boundaries and need strict religion to have boundaries. VirPed is the one place where suicide can be talked about at length, and some rationalization as to morality - yes, the trauma is THAT bad, and unfortunately, some here would prey on it due to anti-abuser predation instincts. 

I kill fornicators... Remember that... A sexual abuser of children is a quintessential fornicator...