Child assertiveness: Why assertiveness in children is a sign of respect in the Bible

Many parents and adults think that respect means keeping children down. This is a common misconception about what the Bible says about respecting parents. The fact of the matter is that respect for parents is children feeling safe saying whatever they want to parents, without hinderance or fear of punishment or reprisal.

I myself do not demand respect from children as an adult. They just respect me - enough to be open and honest about how they really feel about me, regardless of whether I want to hear about me, or at least that is what they are welcome to do anytime, regardless of any higher power telling them otherwise. I am open ears for a child.

Every single parent and adult is guilty in relation to children, and are deserving of DEATH and DESTUCTION merely for existing in relation to children, with parents/adults being meek and shamefaced in relation to children, with parents being shut up in the Lord, speaking to children only at their cue and consent. Parents especially are to esteem their child above all else, putting children first, and parents last, to the point of dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents, with this rest coming from safety and security in the presence of parents, with parents being attendant caregivers to children, with parents being a safe place for children to unload their every emotion, upset, and frustration. Respect for parents is not fear or cowering in their presence, but feeling safe to share with parents anything and everything under the sun, including any upset, frustrations, and petitions for a redress of grievances. Parents are to tolerate even outright rebellion from their children to create space for children to safely communicate their needs to parents. Attachment parenting was the norm in biblical times. Think a mother holding pales of water, with a young child being wrapped up next to his mother's bosom in swaddling blankets, with an older child, in the nude, in tow next to her mother. That was the parenting then, in biblical times.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages, or the slightest of personal offenses perceived by the child, including the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, with this including any striking or punishment of a child. The Apostle Paul here was lifting up the Law for punitive parents in the Colossian church that were of Greek descent. Punishing a child then carried severe penalties, and was seen as deserving of death, even in the Early Church, where Christ spared the offenders of the worst. The rod verses in Proverbs and Hebrews do not refer to spanking, but to a form of judicial corporal punishment known as the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction, and thus the verses in Proverbs are repealed verses. The verses in Hebrews are figurative and symbolic for enduring hardship as a Christian, meaning God does not literally come down with a scourge and whip His children, but He does whip them into shape, like no other Father can.

Respect can be more than just obedience. Respect for parents in the Bible requires honesty and openness towards parents, meaning children tell parents everything, good or bad. Respect for parents, as per the word υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo), refers to a form of rest, namely a form of safety and security in parents that brings about trust, and then the child opens up to parents, telling all about everything, laying the groundwork for a close relationship and friendship with one's child. 

A child should feel safe saying anything and everything under the sun to their parents, and parents should not punish children. Punishing children simply shuts down communication, and then children hide things from parents, and then that leads to more punishment once these hidden items become known. It is a never ending cycle. Punishment comes from a will to control a child, meaning entitlement, or imposed want for the child to "behave" and "be civil". 

True openness and honesty comes from tolerance of childhood behaviors that may be childish or challenging, as most behaviors in children are developmentally appropriate phases, and if left go, usually dissipate as soon as they form. Punishment stunts the growth of children emotionally. Children should occasionally be warned if their wants or behavior head towards unattainable or unsafe territory, but if the child doesn't get that playing in the street is dangerous, they won't until later, so just keep them safe, and all that picking them up as they elope will eventually sink in as a childish mistake they made when they get older. A child who is not interfered with in this manner will confide and confess into parents about everything. Just know that if your child admits to doing anything wrong, act as their confessor, not their cop, and say "you are forgiven" right away. Most childish and problematic behaviors in children are developmentally appropriate behaviors, and shouldn't be interfered with using punishment or force.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Pro-social absorption: Why children don't need rules

Many parents believe children need rules. This is a common misconception about children. Most parents set consistent and regimented rules, in a way that imposes structure on children. The fact of the matter is that children do not need rules. Children absorb life lessons and knowledge about the world on their own accord.

The Apostle Paul wrote in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor thy father and mother, as this is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to a specific Christian standard of discipline in parents in relation to children, namely one that is entitled to nothing, but grateful for everything, especially from children. Children owe nothing to parents, and parents owe everything to children. All this forms a chastened up attitude for children to follow, with this backed up by instruction and guidance for children as a righteous test, meaning giving children instruction when a want is unattainable or unsafe, and if the child does not heed instruction, it is assumed that they cannot possibly understand the concept enough to heed by it, in which case the parent simply keeps the child safe. This righteous test is denoted by the Greek root word translated "admonition" which is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia). This is all weighed by the Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" which is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages, or the slightest of offense perceived by the child, including the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child. This includes, but is not limited to, striking children, with the punishment of children carrying severe penalties in biblical times, meaning it was seen widely as deserving of death, even if Christ spared the parents of death in the New Testament. The rod verses in Proverbs do not refer to spanking children, but the 40 minus 1 lashes administered to an errant ADULT son to warn him that any recidivism would lead to death on the spot. Corporal punishment was not a part of the church discipline of the Early Church except between spouses for agreed-upon mutual accountability. Punishment was absent in the Early Church except in the eye of the entitled beholder, and punishing children was seen as pure witchcraft, particularly in Hebraic circles.

What motivates learning by example? Rest in the Christian love of parents. Parents are to love their children, as an implied command, with children as their neighbor. Christian love is denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to putting children first, and parents last, esteeming children above all else, leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. Rest in this Christian love is denoted by the Greek root word for "obey", which is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo). This rest involves a secure parent-child bond. Think a mother carrying pales of water, with a young child wrapped up next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, with the child feeding off of his mother's breasts, and another child, in the nude, in tow next to her mother. Parents should be a safe place for children to unload all of their emotions, upsets, and frustrations onto, with children hearing out and empathizing with even the worst of tantrums.

Children do not need rules, and in fact, rules can hamper the moral and religious growth and development of a child. Mothers in the Early Church stayed next to their children, in co-mingling format, for the first 6 years of life, and after that, children took up their religious vocation on their own, and learned Scripture that way. This is because religious development and curiosity starts at age 6. Fathers then merely compared notes with their children, perhaps in the form of a friendly debate, concerning religion, with Christian homeschools then being laid back in that way. Religion answers moral questions for the majority of human beings worldwide, and so we use religious instruction in the Early Church to understand the moral development of a child.

Children easily absorb facts of life about the world, and conform naturally to society in most cases. A child with autism may want to see things differently, but that's how most children start out, and then they end up believing close to their parents. Imposing rules on a child sends their moral education off kilter, and then they become dependent on prompts to act in a certain way. We call this prompt dependence in behaviorism. Children should know to prompt themselves, and know for themselves what is okay and what isn't. They don't get it right away, but they get it eventually. 

Most childish and challenging behaviors from children are simply phases to let go, not behaviors to extinguish. If you make a fuss about a developmentally appropriate behavior that bothers you and not the child (or anyone else for that matter), you provoke them to anger by provoking their will, and then it becomes a battle of wills. The behavior will dissipate on its own, and the more you tolerate it and maybe respond to it appropriately, the faster it will go away. Most behaviors children are punished for are developmentally appropriate, and when they are not developmentally appropriate, it can be explained by a developmental disability or other mental health issue.

Children need a disciplined example, with this being known as self-behaviorism. Behaviorism isn't for children, but for YOU, the parent. This means that when you feel like getting angry or sexually inappropriate with your child, do the opposite of what that is in your mind, and keep doing it until it becomes a habit. With anger, this means stifling it and responding calmly even if you don't want to. With parent attraction, self-control entails re-channeling the attraction to another room, away from the child, with the shades down and the door closed. The idea is to center your self-interest in relation to children, by avoiding wants until your wants are centered, and you don't want them actively. You might feel angry or attracted, but that feeling won't be expressed unless someone asks you how you feel. The idea is to get to the point as a parent where you can stew over anger or parent attraction, and not have that stewing emotion affect your choices. Speech control can also be healthy, as the parental lobe in the brain is connected to the vocal chords, so stifle any unnecessary speech or comments about others or life, and just live your life as an observer, only speaking when necessary and helpful. Then, children will want to be disciplined and self-controlled like you, and you can warmly encourage that in them.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! 

Righteous judgment: Why all adults are a threat to children

Many adults think only certain people are the problem when it comes to children's rights. There are levels of knowledge when it comes to children's rights, and many adults support children's rights on the issue of child sexual abuse, usually in an anti-pedophile manner. However, actual children's rights holds that all adults are equally culpable for their risk to children, and that all adults have the capacity to abuse a child under the right/wrong conditions.

It says in John 7:24 KJV:

Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment.

The Greek root word translated "judgment" is κρινο (Latin: krino) and refers to righteous judgment. The phrase "righteous judgment" was what individuals in biblical times referred their judgment as, when sound, meaning "righteous judgment" was the brand name of their judgment, hence you have to research the context, and know that judgment then was based on the arms-length statement "innocent until proven guilty, beyond a reasonable doubt", meaning every word of that statement is true, and we are to presume innocence beyond a reasonable doubt in our neighbor, until they show their true colors.

As an anti-spanking/anti-parent vigilante, I go by doubt elimination, in strict, tick-tock format. If I have any doubt on an adult in front of me in a restaurant, I go on that, until they remove all doubt, in which case they receive a shun from me, meaning I righteously avoid and not associate with them, then campaigning on children's rights spaces for them to be avoided by more people.

There are various offenses that I shun. All of those I judge identified Christians for are noted in 1 Corinthians 5:11 KJV:

But now I have written unto you not to keep company, if any man that is a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolator, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with such an one no not to eat.

"Is a brother" means most of these counts I hold only against anyone who dares to call themselves a Christian while holding onto these enumerated sins. However, the main sin here does apply when the lives of children are at hand, with the Greek root word denoting "covetous" denoting entitlement, and is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers officially to a parent wanting things from or of children to the point of imposition, but unofficially, the word refers to any want whatsoever from a child that can't be obtained, meaning any want whatsoever that isn't earned. Ask, and you shall receive from your child, if they are ready. Demand, and you get nothing but resentment from your child.

Every single adult has a sin nature deserving of DEATH and DESTRUCTION, and is capable of harming a child under the right/wrong conditions. Every single adult is at-risk for abusing a child to some degree or another. Any imposed want from an adult is entitlement, meaning adults have to fight against wanting things from their child, period. I judge all adults by an equal standard. Child abuse is anything that is offensive or threatening to a child (Col. 3:21).

My framework presumes innocence in my neighbor across the board, assuming everyone has the same values that I do, and can hold me up to my own values if necessary. However, I would bet any money, that if you put most all of those adults to a sniff test, you would get an abuser out of them, but since many parents in more liberal parts of the country don't show their entitlement in public too often, I don't get to spot it and judge it for what these adult scum are. I hold flexible judgment, and usually default to victim testimony, including child reactions to entitlement from adults, seeing into the parent or responsible adult's life like a window, being the judge of how they live their life, and if they conform to my values as an attachment parenting Christian. If you punish your child, I don't like how you live, so improve yourself and quit making excuses. Only a few of us who don't support spanking will make it into Heaven, and the rest will burn in Hell and will be consumed by rapture-fire. This is called family values policing, and I judge to see if you conform to my Christian family values that support attachment parenting, assuming you do as well.

Let the depraved and entitled parents and adults who provoke children to anger BURN in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

 

Pro-social friendship, pro-social listening: Why parents should be their child's best friend

Many parents take the attitude of "I am not my child's friend, I am their parent". This is a common attitude among American parents. Most American parents want control over their children, whereas the Bible prohibits any sort of control of a child. Parents are to be best friends with children, without exception.

Every single parent and adult is guilty in relation to children, and is deserving of DEATH and DESTRUCTION merely for existing in relation to children, with parents/adults being meek and shamefaced in relation to children, speaking to children only at their consent and cue. Parents especially are to esteem their children above all else, to the point of dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents, with parents being attendant caregivers of children, and with parents being a safe place for children to share their every emotion, upset, or frustration. Children should be able to tell parents anything and everything under the sun, and not fear punishment or reprisal. Mothers carry the pales of water, and the child next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, and the father stands guard over his family, befriending the children at his level.

The Greek root word translated "parents" is γονεύς (Latin: goneus) and refers to parents in the Hebraic sense, meaning friends and not enemies, meaning an older, more mature, best friend to confide in, with parents being caregivers and not lawgivers. Parents are to be attendant in how they care for their children, like waitstaff at a restaurant, not questioning their expressed needs. Needs and wants are intertwined like a rope, meaning a want always points to a need of some sort. There are five categories of needs in children; food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachment - with the greatest need being attachment.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages, or the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including the slightest of offensive touch or speech, with this including striking or showing anger towards a child for any reason. Under Christian law, anger was not to be expressed except in a courtroom exchange, with minor children not being able to stand trial. The Apostle Paul here was bringing up the Law concerning the punishment of children. Punishing a child carried severe penalties in both ancient Israel and the Early Church, and was seen in the Old Testament as worthy of death, with this public perception carrying over in the Early Church, even though Christians were forbidden from participating in executions. The Early Christians were also forbidden from participating in a judicial whipping of even a hardened criminal offender. The rod verses in Proverbs are specific to the Old Testament, with the rod of correction being a symbol for the endurance of hardship through life experience, as how the rod is mentioned symbolically in Hebrews 12:5-11. God doesn't literally scourge His children, but it sure feels that way sometimes - that is God disciplining His children in a tough way that only He can. 

Mothers nurtured, and fathers befriended. That was the attachment parenting setup in biblical times. Mothers co-mingled and co-slept with their children, wrapping young children up to age 6 with swaddling blankets, sleeping next to their children, nourishing them with their breastmilk, giving them sustenance in skin-to-skin closeness. Fathers became acquainted with their children as they got older, with fathers being best friends with their children as equals. Most Christian fathers then had parent attraction to their older children, usually their older daughters, with girls being more closely guarded by mothers than boys. Most parent attraction and other pedophilia then was connotational in nature, and was understood as a normal flaw in men when around children, but something to restrain and save for alone time. When it was acted upon to the slightest, however, it was seen as deserving of death and Hell, just like any punishment towards a child. Most parents did not have physically aggressive tendencies, with fathers attaching sexual connotations to their daughters and sometimes sons, or perhaps children of both sexes. This was a consequence of the heavily egalitarian nature of parenting in Hebraic circles.

Parents should be a place for listening and guidance, but more so listening. When a child is upset, ask them why they are upset, and listen to how they feel, with you being a best friend for them to lean on. However, the friendship is one-sided in terms of confidence, meaning children confide in parents, but not vice-versa. Children are not safe people for your emotional garbage, as that emotional garbage is hazardous waste for a child to carry with them. Guidance should involve giving children instructions when what they want is unattainable or unsafe, and such is a righteous test to see if children can understand parental instructions given their age and developmental level. If a child continues with the erratic behavior, just keep them safe and assume they don't know better and can't know better. Listen to their upset when they cry for not getting what they want. Crying in that context is grieving. Crying can also mean, particularly in younger children, that they are tired, hungry, the lights are too bright, or perhaps the radio in the store is too loud. Many young children have traits of sensory processing disorder (SPD). Most challenging, childish behaviors are a phase, meaning children naturally grow out of them, eventually. It may take a longer span of years for children with developmental disabilities such as autism spectrum disorders (ASDs), but they will get it as well, eventually.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss, which is the Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Childhood bipolar disorder: What to do about child aggression (pro-social crying, pro-social vulnerability)

Quite a few parents have children with bipolar disorder. This is actually a diagnosis becoming more common in children, made by child psychiatrists and developmental pediatricians alike. One very challenging aspect of the disorder for parents are the rage attacks, or the temper tantrums associated with bipolar disorder.

Childhood bipolar disorder is usually associated with autism spectrum disorders (ASDs), and the aggressive type. The pattern of the disorder is one of regression. As a child gets older, they usually become more self-controlled and throw less tantrums. With a child with bipolar disorder, they will regress as they get older in terms of aggression, with the aggression becoming worse and worse as the years go by, with the aggression usually staying at home, or else in a school environment that is particularly non-listening.

How should the parenting setup be in a bipolar home. Parenting for these behavioral issues should be more lenient, not more strict, as any control in parenting provokes a willful response in a child, meaning they feel the need to fight back - part of human nature called the counterwill. Parents (and all those in place of parents, such as teachers) are to esteem their children above all else, putting children first, and parents last, leading to submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, leading to secure and safe rest in parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents, with parents being attendant caregivers to children, with parents being a safe place for children to trust in and share their every emotion, upset, and frustration. The Christian doctrine of parent abuse is a list of principles that can be applied to aggressive and behaviorally challenged children. The acronyms associated with parent abuse is pro-social crying, pro-social vulnerability. Rage attacks in a child with bipolar disorder is a form of venting of emotions that cannot be expressed any other way, due to the intensity of the emotional state. It is an act of self-harm imposed on parents, and parents just have to deal with it and put up with it until medication stabilizes the disorder in the child. Parents should listen to the child's emotions beforehand as a preventative measure to having to incur aggression or induce tears in oneself as a parent, meaning the whole environment of the child should be as listening and reassuring as possible, with the word "no" only being used when absolutely necessary when a want is unattainable or unsafe, and only with reassurance that parents do hear out and listen to the child's upset. Such should be a righteous test to determine if children are able to listen given their age and developmental level. Some children do not have the brain size or shape to be able to comprehend certain instructions. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including the slightest of offensive touch and speech. Force is something very specific in the Bible, and is the slightest of offensive touch towards a child. Force is acceptable to the minimum degree necessary for self-defense and/or defense of others in parents in order to prevent death or serious bodily injury in the child, parent, and/or others. Otherwise, parents have no right to defend themselves using force, and must accept force from their child, including any petty injuries that may come from the force from the child. The Apostle Paul gave the command in vs. 21 to lift up the Law on punishing children to Greek Christian parents who supported strongly their pagan and idolatrous custom of spanking children. Punishing a child at all was seen as clear abuse in biblical times, and carried severe penalties, including death in the Old Testament, with the moral crime of punishing children being seen as worthy of death in the Early Church but with Christ pardoning the child abuse offender of the very worst. The rod verses in Proverbs and Hebrews do not refer to spanking, but instead refer to a specific and dated form of judicial corporal punishment closely conflated with the death penalty - the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction, as a final warning before putting an errant ADULT son to death. Minor children could not be charged with a moral crime of any sort, as they were seen as incompetent to stand trial due to youthful inexperience and lack of knowledge. In the Early Church, corporal punishment was banned apart from the rare spanking of a wife after her surrendering to male accountability, but even then, most Christian men simply forgave their wives when the wives asked for punishment. There is no room in the Bible for punishing a child. Maybe, just maybe, holding an aggressive teenager in a baskethold.

However, it's okay to cry. Yes, crying, in and of itself, usually shuts down meltdowns associated with bipolar disorder. At the end of every Christian parent's rope should be a ball of tears, not a ball of fists. Parent abuse isn't abusing your parents, as that is instead elder abuse. It is submitting to abuse as the parent or parent-figure, knowing you are helpless and vulnerable, and just letting all the tears out, giving in and giving up. Usually, children who have bipolar disorder will want to reassure the parent they just hurt, not take advantage of the tears of parents, and even if they do, there is an end, somewhere in their string of upset.

Sometimes, you need to restrain. Choose the most selfless position possible, meaning the basket-hold should be your first choice. Restraint should only be for pre-teens and teenagers, not younger children, as younger children won't impose much bodily harm on parents, and thus restraint is overkill. A young child may leave marks on a parent, or even break a rib or two, but bruises go away, and broken ribs usually heal themselves. If you have to go to the hospital due to vulnerability tactics on children, maybe you should have restrained them beforehand to the minimum degree of force necessary to contain their aggression. There is no need for parents in loco parentis such as teachers and mental health professionals to use seclusion or aversive techniques in dealing with child aggression.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punishment will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! 

Pro-social absorption: Why children don't need discipline

Many parents think they need to discipline their children. This is a common myth that we need to control children in order to "make them better". The fact of the matter is that children learn through absorption of facts, including moral facts.

The Apostle Paul wrote in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor thy father and mother, for this is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to a standard of Christian discipline, namely one that is entitled to nothing, and grateful for everything, 

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Why adult authority doesn't exist in the Bible

Many parents and adults believe they are in authority over children. This is a common myth among parents - that they have authority over their children. The Bible is God's Law, and God's Law is above the law of the land in this country. Adult authority is a hegemonic concept that keeps children oppressed and kept down.

Every single parent and adult is guilty in relation to children, and are deserving of DEATH and DESTRUCTION merely for existing in relation to children, with parents/adults being meek and shamefaced in relation to children, only speaking at their consent and cue. Parents especially are to esteem their children above all else, putting children first, and parents last, leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting securely and safely in parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents, with parents being attendant caregivers, and with parents being a safe place for children to share their upsets, frustrations, and petitions for a redress of grievances, and not expect any punishment or retribution in return. Attachment parenting was the norm in ancient Israel and the Early Church alike. Think a mother holding pales of water, with her young child wrapped up next to her bosom, feeding off of her breast, and an older child, in the nude, in tow next to her mother. She then gathers the water up to cook food with and to drink. True biblical parenting is very primitive in nature, and involves secure attachment from day one.

The Greek root word denoting the concept of parents, and translated "parents", is γονεύς (Latin: goneus) and refers not to a lawgiver, but a caregiver, meaning Christian parents in the Early Church prioritized giving loving and attached care to their children above all else, and the rest worked its way through. You don't need to discipline a child to get them to behave. They either know how to behave, or they don't, and that depends on brain size and development, not how stern you are with them. So, just be friends with your child, and the rest will pan out, and they will absorb the lessons they need to learn in life.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages, or the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child. This included striking anyone, for any reason, under Christian law, with this including a child - damages include anything that takes away from the quality of life of a child, including anything that puts a child in a state of fear or frustration. The Apostle Paul here was lifting up the Law for Greek Christian parents misusing the verses in Proverbs. Punishing one's child carried severe penalties under the Law, and incurred bloodlust once found out. The rod verses in Proverbs and Hebrews do not refer to spanking, but to a specific, dated form of judicial corporal punishment - the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction, as a final warning before putting an errant ADULT son to death, meaning the punishment was heavily conflated with the death penalty under Jewish law. Christian law forbade corporal punishment, and Christians in the 1st Century were forbidden from taking part in any corporal punishment.

Adult authority does not exist in schools either. Children were homeschooled in biblical times, and that was done by a parent, meaning today, schools are in place of the parent. This means school students should have the right to connect with their students and have a positive rapport with them. Children should be able to rest safely in a school setting, just as they should with parents. Schools should be developmentally informed, meaning there should be breaks in between lessons at five-minute intervals for younger children, meaning if they want to play on the computer, they can, but only after work. Students should be able to engage in physical affection with teachers, meaning hugs and embraces, and this is actually allowed in schools in my home state of Pennsylvania, as long as it doesn't go further. That should be the law throughout the country. Teachers shouldn't be distant and cold, but warm and reassuring, through grades PK-12. Aversives and seclusion are unacceptable as a means to deal with a disruptive student. Listening techniques should be used to deescalate students, especially vulnerability tactics such as eliciting tears in oneself as the adult and incurring aggression when possible and physically safe (pro-social crying, pro-social vulnerability). Force should only be used in self-defense and/or defense of others, and only to the minimum degree necessary to prevent death or serious bodily injury. There are usually, meaning almost always, alternatives to force used on schoolchildren. These approaches are recommended ways of dealing with autism in the classroom, but all children can benefit from them. All schoolchildren should be in the least restrictive environment, as all children have special needs, as all children are individuals with needs unique to their person and profile.

Adult authority does not exist anywhere except in the blown-up minds of adults who want children to shut up, be quiet, and stroke their ego. Adults have an entitled nature, and are deserving of nothing and should be grateful for everything. Adults are not to domineer or control children, as that offends them.

The depraved and entitled parents and adults will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death, prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is Hell and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!