Gratitude: How to teach gratitude to children - without spanking or punishment

Many parents want to teach their children gratitude. This is a common desire for parents in terms of instruction. Most parents think that the only way to teach children gratitude is to punish them or deprive them of "privileges". The fact of the matter is that gratitude can be taught without spanking or punishment. First, YOU have to be grateful, for everything, including your own child.

Entitlement is the opposite of gratitude. The Greek root word denoting entitlement in the New Testament, and cross-referencing the Tenth Commandment, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, want, to the point of imposition. Most entitlement comes from a deserving attitude, where you believe that you deserve things in life. You, as a parent, are a depraved and decadent sinner who is deserving of absolutely nothing, from anyone, including your own child. When you are fully convicted of the fact that you are deserving of absolutely nothing, you become grateful for absolutely everything, as everything in life becomes a gift to cherish, including your very existence as a human being. Be grateful even for your existence, dear parents, as your existence exists on shaky ground. Gratitude is being happy for whatever you have, preferrably everything you have, knowing you deserve none of it.

A grateful example is one that shows itself as grateful to children. Ideally, the Christian should have their hands wrung behind their back. It is good to impart a grateful example upon your child. However, every good example needs something to back it up. Punitive parenting does not work, as it alienates children from the faith, and drives them away from the Truth. Attachment parenting is the only way to go, as attachment parenting is a time-honored and time-tested form of parenting. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents,  just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as vulnerable extensions of God. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke....to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child.

Children, in biblical times, wore absolutely no clothing, at all, until they became adults. Women only wore clothing outside the home, and otherwise went in the nude, in order to serve both their husbands and their children, separately. Mothers served their children by way of providing for them nourishment and sustenance, namely attachment parenting items such as breastfeeding and skin-on-skin comfort. Children, up until age 6, never left the side of mothers, ranging beside her when at home, clinging to her when crying or upset. Mothers, when children were crying or upset, held their children close to their bosom in skin-on-skin mammary closeness, reassuring children with the phrase "this too shall pass". When out and about, children were worn on the bosom and back of the mothers by way of being wrapped in swaddling blankets, with children being offered to suckle the teat of mothers if they were milk-hungry. By night, mothers co-slept next to their children in order to form a secure attachment to them, and also in order to protect them from all predatory threats, including the sexual entitlement of fathers. Fathers also formed a secure attachment to their children by way of witnessing skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy between mother and child, and then wanting in by way of a sexual attachment to the child. Fathers imprinted on their own children through masturbatory orgasm. Fathers were a prized playmate to their children, with the relationship between father and child being playful and silly, in an encouraging way. Mothers were the more serious of parents, but in a warm and gentle way.

Gratitude is a good example to impart onto children. Gratitude is being happy with what you have, knowing that you deserve none of it. This can be modeled to children by YOU as the parent taking up a grateful attitude towards life, and then forming a secure attachment with your child. You may find that children can be ungrateful at times, meaning they want what they want when they want it. The idea is to let them take that attitude, as then they will grow out of it. Give children most of what they want, and everything they need, while taking a grateful attitude yourself. They will then want to be like you, and then inherit your grateful attitude.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! 

Defiance: How to quell defiance in children using the fetal position

Most parents have had to deal with it in their career as a parent. A child is defiant, perhaps in the middle of a crowded store. Most American parents have had to deal with defiance in their children. Most American parents resort to punishment when their children defy them. This is a common reaction for American parents. The fact of the matter is that the fetal position is the appropriate way to deal with a defiant or aggressive child, and that is how things were done in biblical times.

Defiance is treated with the fetal position within the context of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children just as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as extensions of God.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating them as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child.

Children, in biblical times, wore absolutely no clothing, at all, until they became adults. Women only wore clothing outside the home, and otherwise went in the nude, in order to serve both their husbands and their children, separately. Mothers served their children by way of providing for them nourishment and sustenance, namely attachment parenting items such as breastfeeding and skin-on-skin comfort. Sometimes, children in biblical times were defiant and oppositional, in which case, parents in biblical times took the heat from their children, and turned the other cheek in that regard. They continued with this pattern of response until the child was completely unmanageable. Then, the child was picked up, with the mother then curling up next to the child on the ground, in the fetal position.

The fetal position is an ancient way of calming down a child who is extremely agitated and/or defiant. The fetal position is a natural position for your child that is relaxing for your child. When you place your child in the fetal position, you calm them down, and you help form a bond with them. A child who is defiant is clearly demonstrating that they don't know how to calm themselves down, and thus an adult needs to step in and help them calm down, and the best way to do it is to snuggle with your child in the fetal position. If the child is milk-dependent, mothers should offer the child a chance to suckle her teat. Children are milk-dependent until they push away the mother's nipple. In biblical times, the fetal position was a mother's last resort for a defiant and/or agitated child.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss whuch is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Respect: Why parents need to earn respect (not insist on it)

Many parents think that they deserve respect from their children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents insist on respect from their children, feeling that they are entitled to respect just for procreating. The fact of the matter is that parents need to earn their respect from their children. Otherwise, they are depraved and decadent sinners deserving of absolutely nothing in relation to children. Not even respect.

Respect for parents is a valid concept, but is earned in the context of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. In this mutual submission relationship, parents bear the burden of proof, and are to prove themselves as worthy by providing for their children. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children just as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as vulnerable extensions of God.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch and speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards a child. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong, thereby treating them as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who broght their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child.

Children, in biblical times, wore absolutely no clothing, at all, until they became adults. Women only wore clothing outside the home, and otherwise went in the nude, in order to serve both their husbands and their children, separately. Mothers served their children by way of providing for them nourishment and sustenance, namely attachment parenting items such as breastfeeding and skin-on-skin comfort. Children, up until age 6, never left the side of mothers, ranging next to her when at home, clinging to her when crying or upset. Children who were crying or upset were treated to skin-on-skin comfort, and reassurances of "this too will pass". When out and about, mothers wrapped up children next to their bosom in swaddling blankets, possibly offering to suckle her teat if milk-hungry. By night, mothers co-slept next to children in order to form a secure attachment with them, and also to protect them from all predatory threats, including the sexual entitlement of fathers. Fathers also formed a secure attachment to children, by way of witnessing skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy between mother and child, then wanting in by way of a sexual attachment. Fathers then imprinted on the child through masturbatory orgasm. This pro-social fantasy about the child on the part of the father led to a closer relationship between father and child. This was usually a playful or silly type of relationship, where fathers were dragged around like human ragdolls. Mothers were the more serious parent, but in a warm and gentle way.

Respect for children was a concept in biblical times, but didn't refer to compliance or fear of punishment. Respect for parents in biblical times meant closeness to parents. Children payed respect to parents by being close with them as children, and by way of giving back to parents in some way as adults. This closeness was a child resting in the wake of the good works of their parents, with parents expecting absolutely nothing in return from children. The concept of making children be compliant as a form of respect was non-existent in biblical times. Children respected their parents by keeping a close friendship with them, usually marked by skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy on the part of children towards mothers, with fathers standing by and standing guard with a rod and staff. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! 

Independence: Why the biblical goal for parenting is independence (not obedience)

Many parents think the point of parenting is to get children to listen. This is a common goal for American parents. Most American parents want their children to listen right now, and falsely cite the Bible for that parenting aim. The fact of the matter is that the goal of parenting in biblical times was not children listening on cue, but instead children being independent and self-reliant. 

Independence in children comes from Christian attachment parenting, which is based on the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children just as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as extensions of God.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, including the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up this legal context in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child.

What is the path to children being as independent as possible? Healthy dependence. This healthy dependence comes in the form of a secure attachment. Mothers form this secure attachment by way of providing for them nourishment and sustenance, in skin-on-skin format. Mothers in biblical times provided for their children nourishment and sustenance, by way of providing for children attachment parenting items such as breastfeeding and skin-on-skin comfort. This comfort was constant with young children, with children even co-sleeping in the bed of their parents. 

But, when children reached a certain age, they insisted on doing things on their own. It was at this point that Jewish and Christian fathers in the Bible encouraged lavishly bold feats of independence in children. The push to shake off the warmth of parents came out of nowhere. The reason children insisted on independence on their own was because children had all their needs met. When children have all their needs met, including attachment needs, they can come to the point where they can shake off the closeness of parents on their own.

When applying this context, dear parents, DO NOT repriand or push off children for things such as trying to help you cook. Instead, teach them how to use kitchen appliances and utensils safely, using hand over hand assistance if you think it would be necessary. Children may be interested in other chores around the house, and they may interrupt you in the process. Use this interruption as a teaching moment for them, and show them the right way to clean up the house. Even with boys, in the biblical context, the good men often cooked for their wives, and did everything in between for them. So, cooking is not just for girls.

Children are born with a natural drive to become as independent as possible. It starts with them wanting to walk on their own. That means your child as a will, but in a good way, because they need that will to push to be more independent. For the first few years, you will have a very dependent child who will cry for you and your loving attention, if only that. Then, come adolescence, they will push to do everything on their own. This natural drive is hastened when a child receives everything they need, including all of their attachment needs. So, never ignore a crying child, of any age, and always respond to the cries of a child with love for the child. All children cry for the same reason a baby does - they need love and attention!

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Understanding a predatory pedophile - from the inside out

All adults have abused a child, at some point in their adult years. Most adults abuse children by way of using force in a disciplinary manner. I myself am not one of those adults. I am an adult who has sexually abused multiple children in the form of antisocial "flirt". I flirted with children when I was an adult and when I was still a child myself as an adult. 

This platform is under investigation by the Reading, Pennsylvania Police Department and the Pennsylvania State Police, based on a sexual assault that I committed against my female cousin who is four years younger than me. I "freshened up" her sides as I was kneeling over her on a bed in the attic of my grandparent's house. Such is considered sexual assault according to my current Christian standards, and thus a form of fornication and self-defilement. My choices towards my cousin were defiled in nature. I deserved to be investigated by the police, as what I did could be construed as summary harassment. 

I myself was once a career abuser and sexual offender of children, like train cars and not a wad or string. I was an obvious abuser, but since I appeared autistic, everyone cut me a break. In one case, I approached a 9-year-old girl when I was 16, and asked her for her number. She declined, but I kept following her around the pool deck like a sick puppy. There are a reason why child predators like me are called sick puppies - that's how we act when in abuser mode. I talked about the 9-year-old victim all the time, everywhere I went, and didn't care what other people thought. Most people didn't care, on the other side of things, and chalked it up to my developmental level.

There are two types of pedophile that abuse children, the really big ones and the really little ones. Most predatory pedophiles are not power and influence abusers, but are vulnerability abusers who use their autistic vulnerability as a poker chip to get what they want. I was that abuser, and once an abuser, always an abuser.

I violated my own Christian beliefs then, before I ever was a Christian. I was a toxic atheist who thought he was a good person, and thus didn't see the error of my ways. The Greek root word denoting fornication is πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers to any sexual contact outside of marriage, by the perception of the complainant. I approached young girls with the intent to procure them for a romantic friendship - where I would use the friendship for romantic reasons. Then, when the child victims perceived my approach, it became fornication by way of sexual assault. It was a one-sided "relationship" that used an otherwise valid friendship for romantic purposes. 

Most pedophiles have abused a child, if you go back far enough in their life, meaning usually as teenagers. Usually, a predatory pedophile seeks out friendship with a child with the intent to use them for romantic purposes, which is a form of sexual entitlement. Most non-offending pedophiles friend children in a different way, where they purge the crush by way of rules of evidence. Romantic feelings go away easily if you convince yourself that romance is not even a possibility. I didn't know that then, meaning my thinking was distorted enough that I believed I could have some distant/close romantic relationship with a child just by being friends with them, and that flirting was okay since it didn't constitute a sex crime under Pennsylvania law.

My main crime was that I was a flirt with the young girls, in a way that was sexually amoral and impure. I committed the offense of antisocial "flirt", which is a form of fornication where you flirt with the wrong people, in the wrong context. In the case of children, it is flirting with children at all. Flirting with children is a summary offense here in the Commonwealth of Pennsylvania if the child victim takes the course of conduct - meaning the flirting - serious enough to make a report of summary harassment to their local police jurisdiction. 

I am grateful for the forgiveness of my victims, as I deserve none of it for being the depraved and decadent sinner that I am. I am a sex offender, yet they forgive me? Maybe they say they weren't offended, but I'm sure God is offended by what I did, and that's what makes what I did a sexual offense.

Discipline: How to teach discipline to children - without spanking or punishment

Many parents want to teach discipline to their children. This is a common goal for parents to set for their children. Most parents want their children to be disciplined and chastened up, at least by young adulthood. However, most parents think that the only way to instill discipline in a child is to punish them. However, discipline can be taught without punishing a child.

Discipline is the absence of entitlement. The Greek root word denoting entitlement in the New Testament, and cross-referencing the Tenth Commandment, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, want, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, entitlement is the slightest of unattainable want. When what you want will lead to a temper tantrum upon hearing the word "no", don't want it, and avoid that want at all costs. Most entitlement comes from a deserving place, where the person feels that they are deserving of things in life just for existing. The fact of the matter is that YOU, as the parent, are a depraved and decadent sinner who is deserving of absolutely nothing, and thus is to be grateful for everything. This avoidance of entitlement chastens up the individual, as denoted by the Greek root word παιδεία (Latin: paideia), which denotes Christian discipline based on an attitude of being deserving of nothing and grateful for everything. Children are watching, and if they see discipline in parents, they will have discipline themselves, to the degree that parents do.

A disciplined example is good for children to follow. But, every good example has to be backed up by something. Punitive parenting only alienates children from the faith, and drives them away from the Truth. Attachment parenting is the only way to back up a good Christian example, and is time-honored and time-tested throughout human history. Christian attachment parenting is based on the doctrine of mutual submission to back up a good disciplined example from parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children just as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as vulnerable extensions of God. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards a child. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblcal times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up this legal context in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child.

Children, in biblical times, wore absolutely no clothing, at all, until they became adults. Women only wore clothing outside the home, and otherwise went in the nude, in order to serve both their husbands and their children, separately. Mothers served their children by way of providing for them nourishment and sustenance, namely attachment parenting items such as breastfeeding and skin-on-skin comfort. Children, up until age 6, never left the side of mothers, ranging beside her at home, clinging to her when crying or upset. When children cried or were upset, mothers held children close to their bosom in skin-on-skin mammary closeness, reassuring children with the words "this too will pass". When out and about, mothers wrapped up children next to their bosom in swaddling blankets, perhaps allowing the child to suckle their teat if they are milk-hungry. By night, mothers co-slept next to their children in order to form a secure attachment with her children, and in order to protect her children against all predatrory threats, including the sexual entitlement of fathers. Fathers also formed a secure attachment with children by way of witnessing skin-on-skin closeness between mother and child, and wanting in by way of a sexual attachment to the child. Fathers imprinted on their children by way of masturbatory orgasm, with this imprinting leading to a closer relationship between fathers and children, especially fathers and daughters. Usually, this was a playful, silly type of relationship, that also was encouraging towards bold feats of independence at times. Mothers were the more serious of parents, but in a warm and gentle type of way. Fathers were only allowed access to children with the mother's permission, and could only touch the child to the degree that the child allowed...This context is applicable today just as it was in the days of old, albeit with some tweaking. 

Attachment parenting is the only way to teach discipline to your child. All you have to do is impart a disciplined example, and have a secure attachment with your child to back that example up, and then the child will absorb your disciplined, non-entitled example, and will want to be like you. When you have a secure attachment to your child, your child wants to be like you, and thinks you are the coolest person on earth. They go through a period where they are dependent on you, and cry for all their needs. Then, at some point in adolescence, they start pushing to do everything on their own, and it seems to come out of nowhere. Usually, children raised in this way are resilient and tough, and can take any insult and not get offended. Attachment parenting, through having a secure attachment, is what backs up a disciplined example. There is no need to strike or punish a child in order to "discipline" them. Just have discipline yourself, and model it to them, while having a secure attachment to them.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Judeo-Christian family values: How to teach Judeo-Christian values to children - without spanking or punishment

Many parents want to teach their children Judeo-Christian values. This is a common ideal for parents in America. Most American parents still value Judeo-Christian values, whether they admit it or not. However, most parents think that you cannot teach Judeo-Christian values without punishment of some sort to back it up. The fact of the matter is that a good Christian example should be backed up by attachment parenting, not punitive parenting. The fact of the matter is that you can teach a child any values system using attachment parenting, including Judeo-Christian values.

Judeo-Christian values are centered around the concept of avoidance of entitlement. The Greek root word denoting entitlement in the New Testament, and cross-references the Tenth Commandment, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, want, to the point of imposition. Unofficially, entitlement is the slightest of unattainable want. If a want might lead to a temper tantrum upon hearing the word "no", don't want it, and avoid that want at all costs. Most entitlement comes from a deserving place, where the person takes up the attitude that they are deserving of things in life. The key to avoiding entitlement is getting an attitude adjustment, where you instead declare yourself a depraved and decadent sinner who is deserving of nothing in life, including even from your own child. Children are watching your every move. If you show entitlement around or towards them - including parental entitlement - your child will learn that it is okay to show entitlement to get their way. Children follow the example of their parents, for good or for bad, and if they are exposed to entitled attitudes in parents, they will imitate their entitlement.

A non-entitled, disciplined attitude will surely teach your child the Judeo-Christian values that this country was founded upon. However, every good example needs something to back it up. Punitive parenting simply alienates children, and drives them away from the Truth. Attachment parenting is time-tested and time-honored as a natural form of parenting endorsed by the Bible, and a good way to back up a good Judeo-Christian example. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children just as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as vulnerable extensions of God. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was also understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up this legal context in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child.

Children, in biblical times, wore absolutely no clothing, at all, until they became adults. Women only wore clothing outside the home, and otherwise went in the nude, in order to serve both their husbands and their children, separately. Mothers served their children by way of providing for them nourishment and sustenance, namely attachment parenting items such as breastfeeding and skin-on-skin comfort. Children, up until age 6, never left the side of mothers, ranging beside her when at home, clinging to her when they were crying or upset. Children who cried or were upset were comforted by their mothers in a skin-on-skin manner, and were reassured with the phrase "this too will pass". When out and about, young children were wrapped up next to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy, perhaps with the child suckling the teat of mothers if milk-hungry. By night, mothers co-slept next to children in order to form a secure attachment with them, and also to protect them from all predatory threats, including the sexual entitlement of fathers. Fathers also formed a secure attachment to children, by way of witnessing skin-on-skin bonding between mother and child, and wanting in by way of a sexual attachment to the child. The father then imprints on the child by way of masturbatory orgasm. This pro-social fantasy on the part of the father about his child helps the father become comfortable enough with his child, usually his daughter, to form a secure attachment. Usually, this attachment between father and child - usually father and daughter - was a playful and silly type of relationship, with fathers reeling themselves down to the level of their child and having fun with them, in the mean time encouraging bold feats of independence. The mother was the more serious parent usually, in a warm and gentle type of way.

All you need to raise a child in the Judeo-Christian values that this nation was founded on is a good Christian example for children, backed up by parents having a secure attachment with children. When parents have a secure attachment with children, children are motivated to absorb the values of their parents, on their own, at their own pace. Children in attachment parenting homes want to be like their parents, and that is because their parents won them over to their values, instead of beating otherwise good values into their children and thus alienating them from the faith. Children are very observant of what exists in their environment in terms of values, and also are keen to imitate the values of their parents. Attachment parenting can pass down any values system this way, including Judeo-Christian family values. There is no need to beat good values into a child. Perhaps children won't be convicted of good Judeo-Chtistian values right away, as most childhood misbehaviors are developmentally appropriate behaviors given the child's age and developmental level. Don't expect a child with your values until they become young adults.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!