Judeo-Christian family values: How to teach Judeo-Christian values to children - without spanking or punishment

Many parents want to teach their children Judeo-Christian values. This is a common ideal for parents in America. Most American parents still value Judeo-Christian values, whether they admit it or not. However, most parents think that you cannot teach Judeo-Christian values without punishment of some sort to back it up. The fact of the matter is that a good Christian example should be backed up by attachment parenting, not punitive parenting. The fact of the matter is that you can teach a child any values system using attachment parenting, including Judeo-Christian values.

Judeo-Christian values are centered around the concept of avoidance of entitlement. The Greek root word denoting entitlement in the New Testament, and cross-references the Tenth Commandment, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, want, to the point of imposition. Unofficially, entitlement is the slightest of unattainable want. If a want might lead to a temper tantrum upon hearing the word "no", don't want it, and avoid that want at all costs. Most entitlement comes from a deserving place, where the person takes up the attitude that they are deserving of things in life. The key to avoiding entitlement is getting an attitude adjustment, where you instead declare yourself a depraved and decadent sinner who is deserving of nothing in life, including even from your own child. Children are watching your every move. If you show entitlement around or towards them - including parental entitlement - your child will learn that it is okay to show entitlement to get their way. Children follow the example of their parents, for good or for bad, and if they are exposed to entitled attitudes in parents, they will imitate their entitlement.

A non-entitled, disciplined attitude will surely teach your child the Judeo-Christian values that this country was founded upon. However, every good example needs something to back it up. Punitive parenting simply alienates children, and drives them away from the Truth. Attachment parenting is time-tested and time-honored as a natural form of parenting endorsed by the Bible, and a good way to back up a good Judeo-Christian example. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children just as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as vulnerable extensions of God. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was also understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up this legal context in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child.

Children, in biblical times, wore absolutely no clothing, at all, until they became adults. Women only wore clothing outside the home, and otherwise went in the nude, in order to serve both their husbands and their children, separately. Mothers served their children by way of providing for them nourishment and sustenance, namely attachment parenting items such as breastfeeding and skin-on-skin comfort. Children, up until age 6, never left the side of mothers, ranging beside her when at home, clinging to her when they were crying or upset. Children who cried or were upset were comforted by their mothers in a skin-on-skin manner, and were reassured with the phrase "this too will pass". When out and about, young children were wrapped up next to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy, perhaps with the child suckling the teat of mothers if milk-hungry. By night, mothers co-slept next to children in order to form a secure attachment with them, and also to protect them from all predatory threats, including the sexual entitlement of fathers. Fathers also formed a secure attachment to children, by way of witnessing skin-on-skin bonding between mother and child, and wanting in by way of a sexual attachment to the child. The father then imprints on the child by way of masturbatory orgasm. This pro-social fantasy on the part of the father about his child helps the father become comfortable enough with his child, usually his daughter, to form a secure attachment. Usually, this attachment between father and child - usually father and daughter - was a playful and silly type of relationship, with fathers reeling themselves down to the level of their child and having fun with them, in the mean time encouraging bold feats of independence. The mother was the more serious parent usually, in a warm and gentle type of way.

All you need to raise a child in the Judeo-Christian values that this nation was founded on is a good Christian example for children, backed up by parents having a secure attachment with children. When parents have a secure attachment with children, children are motivated to absorb the values of their parents, on their own, at their own pace. Children in attachment parenting homes want to be like their parents, and that is because their parents won them over to their values, instead of beating otherwise good values into their children and thus alienating them from the faith. Children are very observant of what exists in their environment in terms of values, and also are keen to imitate the values of their parents. Attachment parenting can pass down any values system this way, including Judeo-Christian family values. There is no need to beat good values into a child. Perhaps children won't be convicted of good Judeo-Chtistian values right away, as most childhood misbehaviors are developmentally appropriate behaviors given the child's age and developmental level. Don't expect a child with your values until they become young adults.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!