Why shyness is a good character quality in a parent

 Many people hold to the stereotypical parent, meaning the abusive stereotype towards children. Laughing about children. Laughing at children. Brushing off "anti-spanking PC police". It is a loud stereotype of parent. The little a parent talks, and stays shut up for their child's needs, the less entitlement a parent has.

It says in Hebrews 12:11 KJV:

Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: neverthess afterwards it yieldeth the peaceable fruit unto righteousness which is exercised thereby.

The Greek root word translated "chastening" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to discipline, meaning one that admits its evil, depraved nature - think "I am evil" gaslighting imposed by God, leading to the hourglass treatment. The Greek root word translated "grievous" and is denoted by the Greek root word λυπέ (Latin: lupé). This commitment isn't for children, in terms of Christian family law, but the parents. It says in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath, but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated as "nurture" and translates the same as "chastening" in Heb. 12:11, παιδεία. Nurture means discipline, namely self-discipline in the parent, in the form of co-regulation. "Co-regulation" refers to centering and disciplining oneself, stifling one's child abusive impulses, modeling the concept of being strict on oneself to children. Attachment parenting was the norm of parents in ancient Jewish culture. Punishment of a child was illegal, and punishment of adults within a judicial setting was very rare. The Greek root word translated νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to setting limits and boundaries with children, not a literal rod of correction. It refers to how children were disciplined - the rod of nurturing and warmth was considered the long alternate of the rod of correction and firmness, meaning usually a firm "no" or similar setting of a negative boundary. Children were simply scolded verbally then, and even then not all the time. If you set too many boundaries, such as the word "no", the limits lose their strength. Childish behavior in children should be excused until a later date, when an adult can reason with them as to the consequences...Rambunctiousness, running around, and screaming in joy, whereas parents are to shut up and listen when the child comes to them with a concern.

How can you know that a parent is behaving in accordance with these principle? They are silent, and attendant in their duties as a parent. The children drag the parents to new places they'd like to see, and direct the day's activities on days off, to the degree that they wish. Such parents almost never argue over the small things with children, allowing their life to be led by their child, with dedication to their child. All visible by silence and quietness in the parent.

The depraved and entitled parents will be cast into torrents of fire and brimstone, suffering the second death! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

My judgment standard: Lamppost judgment

 Many people are afraid of my righteous judgment coming towards them, and attacking for their parenting, and now some of them want to erase my Christian belief in the damage system, which is a core part of my beliefs. At least this was how it was in 2017.

The Greek root word κλέπτω (Latin: kleptó) and refers to theft in two levels - theft, as in stealing a material object, called larceny in the biblical context. The other half is committing the moral crime of theft itself, namely in terms of damages, usually to the honor of another person.

Damages, by the understanding set forth in the New Testament, means whatever any individual perceives as an affront to their personage or honor, and this includes a child. I am not to offend a child by anything, under my Christian beliefs. The most common thing I do that is abusive is look in a way that offends or embarrasses her.

I do not have a right to have MY feelings coddled, even if I technically do. It says in Matthew 5:38-39 KJV:

Ye hath heard that it hath been said, An eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth, But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil, but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn the other also.

This means I have the right, at the lowest level, to take offense at anything I want, but on a higher level, should not get so easily offended. This means, as a conservative Christian, stopping oneself when wanting to lash out for one's own rights, and get offended by the slightest slight to your identity. You should get more offended about other people being harmed, not yourself...Nothing about a child offends me in terms of childhood anger, but may "offend" me, meaning her, regarding to reacting to her lack of wardrobe.

I am a lamppost judge, and not an easily offended one (in case others try to rile me up). That means an honest judge, meaning if figure out that I am investigating you, and you ask questions, you will be questioned in a clear, direct manner, holding back no suspicion, but presuming innocence beyond a reasonable doubt. It is "presume"/"reason to believe" judgment of parents, including those at VirPed - keep guessing at reasons why the parents are innocent. This goes until I know nothing good about the parents, and everything bad, and shun the parents. I need reason to suspect - think a flag hanging in the text - to start the investigation, coming in the form of pro-social question, pro-social clarify. I want you to clarify that my presumption is right, and my abuser isn't in my presence. 

Why not to have expectations as a parent or caregiver

 Many parents have expectations for their child. Most do, in fact, expect things from your child. I don't expect anything from a child. Not even respect. I have preferences as to where my child would go, but not expectations. Expectations come from entitlement.

The Tenth Commandment, in Exodus 20:17 KJV, states:

Thou shalt covet thy neighbour's house, thou shalt not covet my neighbour's wife, nor is manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor any thing that is thy neighbour's.

The Greek root word translated "covet" is לחמוד (Latin: lachmod) and refers not simply to wanting things from a child, but wanting to the point of seeking to impose said want onto a child, leading to theft/abuse, with theft including legal damages imposed on the child, as is further repeated in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to anger, but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Larin: paideia) and here refers to co-regulation, meaning parents modeling self-control and chastisement, while listening and validating a child's cries for nurture and warmth, as oppose to ordering them to stop crying. It is a centered, yet warm and caring state in relation to children. I am not an excitable person, meaning I am rather calm most of the time, but a child could pull some playfulness out of me for sure, namely with this including running around in an open space, constantly talking about her favorite subjects, etc. The Greek root word translated νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to setting limits and boundaries with a child, namely though the word "no" and its various variants. Correction could not include violence or entitlement of any kind, as the Greek root word translated "provoke...not to wrath" is παροργίζω (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to legal damages inflicted onto children, which could be a sting of pain from being struck. Basically, the minimum threshold for pain is the level of pain felt from a needle pin, imposed onto another person, including a child...Parenting then was attachment-based, with punishment being rare and for adults only, meaning an adult who knew what they were doing, and either defended it or else didn't care.

The Greek root word denoting entitlement in the New Testament is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and, again, refers to wanting things from children to the point of imposing said want on a child. Yes, this is an expectation imposed on a child. The goal, as an attached parent, is to have none. Just friendship with the child, and the adult being the unequal one, charged with responsibility towards the child by God in the form of providing custody.

Here is one speech diagram

Don't say: "Clean your room!"

Instead say: "Could you please clean your room"

Sometimes, a reason for a request is necessary, which case say "We have visitors over tonight. From work"

Sometimes, they won't do it, because it doesn't get done. So, literally get up, and close the child's door, and literally clean around the child's room, including in your room - where you shouldn't enslave your child to clean. There, parents, a spotless home for your co-workers to show up, and you didn't whine about any of that, did you?

Expectations are forceful hopes for your child, meaning a want as to action that is imposed on a child. "I want you to..." or "I expect you to..." are most always abusers' statements, as the parent is trying to control. Once the child is offended by this course of conduct, it becomes abuse, as whatever the child victim perceives viscerally as abuse, is such according to Divine Codified Jurisprudence.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Understanding mutual submission in biblical parenting

 Many parents believe that they are the head of their children, and thus bossing them around. I myself am a Christian nihilist/pragmatist. In this case, the key is "nothing but". I obey no blind authority but God, and His Laws prescribed for my own disposal, as they apply to me. I apply the full Bible as applicable to Christians, meaning not the letter of the Law, but the spirit of the Law, which says no spanking of minor children. God convicts that I stay here, in this movement.

It says in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise, That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest lives long upon the earth. Fathers, provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to surrender coming from surrender to your children. Christian love is denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to surrendering one's authority over children, submitting to a child and her needs as her enemy, and deserving of DEATH and PUNISHMENT merely for existing in relation to children, knowing that you have a wicked, controlling nature just for being a natural parent or similarly charged adult to a child, leading to bondservice and indentured servitude towards children. Love God. Love your neighbor (Matt. 22:27-40). Defend the "least of these" which is children (Matt. 25:31-46). This sums up the Law as God hath penned it, and all other commands flow from that.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to co-regulation, meaning both modeling good, non-entitled attitudes to children by one's own self-control. Parents are also to listen and validate, like a sounding board, then maybe giving advice as the child asks for it or else consents. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouithesia) and refers to gentle verbal correction. Children then only showed their energy to their parents, and out of trust - this was considered a form of surrender to parents then. The Greek root word translated παροργιζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to legal damages - think in a courtroom, where the righteous judge has their own court. The presence of damages, meaning the slightest of personal slight perceived by the child, proves abuse. Extra witnesses to the parent abusing the child will serve the same, and boosten a case under moral legal jurisprudence...Justice was collective in the Early Christian churches, and involved collective gaslighting lead to to collective shunning and punishment of wrongdoing, including for things such as provoking your child to anger through defended damages.

Parents and children are to submit to each other, with the parent submitting first, and winning over the respect of the child! It doesn't happen overnight, but it is never too late to have a change of heart and stop punishing, controlling, and/or spousifying things. I may hate parents, but I obey my parents. Why? They are good to me. Mom takes me places after school, perhaps to hike, and takes me out eating. That is exactly what moms are for - meeting attachment needs to do things together with her. This is how parenting was seen in the Bible. Parents were servants of God, meaning they had to sacrifice their own needs for the child, as Christ sacrificed Himself for His children. I am to sacrifice in that way. It is a friendly adversarial way to interact with children, meaning I am their enemy, and I have to work toward being their friend, because I have wronged them merely for existing as an adult.

Let the entitled parents BURN! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Understanding the damage system in relation to parent-child conflicts

 Many Christian conservatives know what the damage system is. It was in hiding for a couple of decades because many people misused the damage system. It has a purpose in defining child abuse abuse in a parent-child conflict.

Parent-child exchanges, among dependent children, are one sides - the child has all the rights, and the parents have none. Children are deserving of everything good, and parents are deserving of everything bad, and this remains the same until the parents admits themselves as the enemy of all children everywhere, alongside all other adults.

Christ came not to abolish the law, but further the Law in spirit, taking it further. The Law affords children rights to perceive abuse from a parent or other adult, and, in spirit, this means the slightest of personal slights committed against your neighbor, in this case the child.

The Tenth Commandment is cross-referenced by the New Testament by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers not only to wanting things from a child, but to seeking to impose said want onto a child, leading to theft/abuse. Entitlement becomes theft once it strikes the child, and "theft" is the objective understanding of child abuse.

In a real life situation, you may have to say "no", but how you deal with that issue determines your abuser status, meaning ignoring or shouting at a crying infant/child and calling them "manipulative" alone is abuse. However, if you sit down with your child, meaning kneel to their level, or sit next to them on a couch or open bench, and reassure in a validating way, wiping away the tears, and being a sounding board for the child's problems and upsets, not just as babies, but perhaps even adult children living with you due to immaturity or other reasons, you plead innocence as a child abuser and are deemed as innocent by God. It says in Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "children" is τεκνον (Latin: teknon) and refers to a child that is dependent on his/her parent. This means as long as your children are under your roof, YOU are responsible for their care and supervision. If they have an ability and opportunity to do things for themselves, let them. I'd probably be a hands-free type of gentle parent, where children were supervised, but weren't hidden from responsibilities that they could take up at their age, usually in conflation with rights such as being legally old enough to hold a job, or watch younger siblings. The Greek root word υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to surrender coming from the parent's selfless and attendant submission to the child's every vulnerable need, with Christian love denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and that means not affection towards your child, but the service that said affection prompts. Is your child a piece of property to you? That is not a proper Christian view, as children in Hebraic culture were raised in an attachment-based setting, meaning children were seen as people, albeit small and under a power of attorney with parents called providing custody, meaning an attachment-based form of custody where parents provide at the child's very level or slightly lower...Christian parents and their children are to submit to each other, with the child having the upper hand in advocating needs. 

Needs and wants are intertwined for children, in their brain. Thus, one must be very careful when saying "no" to a child, and use that directness sparingly (Eph. 6:4). Most every want a child expresses signals a need, to the point that this should be assumed as such - every child's cry and whine being a cry of help. A child may want to go to the restaurant, and may throw fits, when really all they need is some time with mom or dad. It's called attachment needs, and children have them. We all do - it's called friendships. We all have a controlling nature conflated with out parent, in various forms (mine is sexually entitled - a pedophile).

The depraved and entitled parents shall BURN! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

 

Understanding the Eighth Commandment - and how it legislates child abuse definitions under Christian law

 Many Christians have heard the commandment, "Thou shalt not steal" is often attributed to the unlawful gain of material goods. However, many people do not know that the Eighth Commandment is actually a moral legal commandment against anything that would be seen as abuse in modern times. Theft is damages.

What is a damage? In the spirit of the Law, it is the slightest of personal slights against an individuals, in this a child. It says in Exodus 20:15 KJV:

Thou shalt not steal.

The main group repeating the Eighth Commandment is κρινο (Latin: krino. "Steal" does not refer to material property or effects, but any quality of life, meaning stealing one's quality of life away from. The damage system is mentioned in relation to children in Ephesians 6:4 KJV

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath, but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to legal damages, namely pain, upset, or shame - basically any personal slight imposed upon your child. Pain in child abuse is defined as, a the very least, the slightest of a pin-needle, and shame being any level of shame imposed on a child. The Greek root word translated "nurture" παίδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to discipline of a centered type that is convicted of its wicked and depraved nature, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord, and is, in this context, passed down primarily by exemplary means, known as a co-regulation. This allowed for Hebrew mothers in particular to listen and validate their child's every vulnerable need, like a sounding board, while both parents emulated self-control, without punishment - punishment only existed then as a legal consequence for adults. Children then were raised with attachment parenting, and that involved a strong bond between mother and child in particular, with children remaining in close range to mothers in particular, with automatic cooperation based on that.. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nothesia) and refers to gentle verbal correction, and only on occasion to inform a child of their wrongdoing, without punishment and control. The child should be able to trust you enough to listen to you immediately. It says in Colossians 3:20 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing to the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to surrender coming from the surrender of parents to the child, with Christian love denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to lawful and dutiful submission to a child, surrendering them as their enemy, becoming subservient to their every vulnerable need from beneath yet from above, not assuming needs apart from what the child has said or indicated in their behavior. I myself hate parents, but still obey and honor my mother, and honor my father who is in Heaven. Why? She earned it, and is kind and respectful to me. I can talk to her about anything I want to, and she's right there to listen to my concerns and upsets, or even just my interests. It is an automatic jolt to listen to mom, not out of fear, but our of simple respect and trust, at a traditional level where you don't realize that you are obedient. You just are. 

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them languish in a fire of torrents that is the second death! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

 

Why parents should be afraid of their child

Many parents want their children to fear them, meaning through punishment. 94% of parents punish their children though physical means, such as spanking or whipping. Parents, however, are to instead fear their child, and be beholden to their child.

The Greek root word denoting reverent fear is ψοβός (Latin: phobos) and refers to low-level fear that "jolts" one into action. In the case of parents, this involves a drive to turn one's protective instincts inward, and avoid situations and emotional states that might lead to abuse towards children.

It says in Exodus 20:17 KJV:

Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's house, thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's wife, not his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor any thing that is thy neighbour's.

The Hebrew word translated "covet" is לחמוד (Latin: lachmod) and refers to not simply wanting a child, but wanting something from a child to the point of seeking to impose said want on a child, leading to theft/abuse. The Greek root word in the New Testament that cross-references the Tenth Commandment is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to the entitled attitude of "I am their parent, and so I have the right to respect from them" leasing to demanding, controlling, or spousifying behavior, leading to abuse if the child perceives it.

What motivates parents and similarly charged adults to change their attitudes towards children? Fear. Reverent fear is a fear in relation to children, meaning a fear of what you are capable of. Using that fear to avoid certain power struggles and other abusive aspects of parenting, emphasizing the harm to the child in your mind - pro-social catastrophe - will teach you, the parent, how to be respectful to your children.

It says in Hebrews 12:11 KJV:

Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby.

The Greek root word translated "chastening" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to discipline and self-control, coming from an acknowledgement of one's evil nature, knowing one is a flawed parent in need of improvement, and thus improving. The Greek root word translated "grievous" is λυπέ (Latin: lupé) and refers to pain from grief and misery, but the type one finds oneself in when improving one's self-control and self-centeredness, leading to discipline in the parent. Discipline is for the parent to master, not the child. The child simply emulates disciplined attitudes from the parents.

I am afraid of a child, meaning she is above be, on a stand of high judgment over all adults, discerning between the sheep and the goats, meaning which adults are safe and unsafe. Think a young girl with brown hair, in a summer dress, sitting at the high seat, the high bench, deciding my fate depending on how much I treat her with respect.

Let the parents BURN! Let them suffer the second death for all eternity! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!