Understanding the damage system in relation to parent-child conflicts

 Many Christian conservatives know what the damage system is. It was in hiding for a couple of decades because many people misused the damage system. It has a purpose in defining child abuse abuse in a parent-child conflict.

Parent-child exchanges, among dependent children, are one sides - the child has all the rights, and the parents have none. Children are deserving of everything good, and parents are deserving of everything bad, and this remains the same until the parents admits themselves as the enemy of all children everywhere, alongside all other adults.

Christ came not to abolish the law, but further the Law in spirit, taking it further. The Law affords children rights to perceive abuse from a parent or other adult, and, in spirit, this means the slightest of personal slights committed against your neighbor, in this case the child.

The Tenth Commandment is cross-referenced by the New Testament by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers not only to wanting things from a child, but to seeking to impose said want onto a child, leading to theft/abuse. Entitlement becomes theft once it strikes the child, and "theft" is the objective understanding of child abuse.

In a real life situation, you may have to say "no", but how you deal with that issue determines your abuser status, meaning ignoring or shouting at a crying infant/child and calling them "manipulative" alone is abuse. However, if you sit down with your child, meaning kneel to their level, or sit next to them on a couch or open bench, and reassure in a validating way, wiping away the tears, and being a sounding board for the child's problems and upsets, not just as babies, but perhaps even adult children living with you due to immaturity or other reasons, you plead innocence as a child abuser and are deemed as innocent by God. It says in Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "children" is τεκνον (Latin: teknon) and refers to a child that is dependent on his/her parent. This means as long as your children are under your roof, YOU are responsible for their care and supervision. If they have an ability and opportunity to do things for themselves, let them. I'd probably be a hands-free type of gentle parent, where children were supervised, but weren't hidden from responsibilities that they could take up at their age, usually in conflation with rights such as being legally old enough to hold a job, or watch younger siblings. The Greek root word υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to surrender coming from the parent's selfless and attendant submission to the child's every vulnerable need, with Christian love denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and that means not affection towards your child, but the service that said affection prompts. Is your child a piece of property to you? That is not a proper Christian view, as children in Hebraic culture were raised in an attachment-based setting, meaning children were seen as people, albeit small and under a power of attorney with parents called providing custody, meaning an attachment-based form of custody where parents provide at the child's very level or slightly lower...Christian parents and their children are to submit to each other, with the child having the upper hand in advocating needs. 

Needs and wants are intertwined for children, in their brain. Thus, one must be very careful when saying "no" to a child, and use that directness sparingly (Eph. 6:4). Most every want a child expresses signals a need, to the point that this should be assumed as such - every child's cry and whine being a cry of help. A child may want to go to the restaurant, and may throw fits, when really all they need is some time with mom or dad. It's called attachment needs, and children have them. We all do - it's called friendships. We all have a controlling nature conflated with out parent, in various forms (mine is sexually entitled - a pedophile).

The depraved and entitled parents shall BURN! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!