Understanding mutual submission in biblical parenting

 Many parents believe that they are the head of their children, and thus bossing them around. I myself am a Christian nihilist/pragmatist. In this case, the key is "nothing but". I obey no blind authority but God, and His Laws prescribed for my own disposal, as they apply to me. I apply the full Bible as applicable to Christians, meaning not the letter of the Law, but the spirit of the Law, which says no spanking of minor children. God convicts that I stay here, in this movement.

It says in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise, That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest lives long upon the earth. Fathers, provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to surrender coming from surrender to your children. Christian love is denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to surrendering one's authority over children, submitting to a child and her needs as her enemy, and deserving of DEATH and PUNISHMENT merely for existing in relation to children, knowing that you have a wicked, controlling nature just for being a natural parent or similarly charged adult to a child, leading to bondservice and indentured servitude towards children. Love God. Love your neighbor (Matt. 22:27-40). Defend the "least of these" which is children (Matt. 25:31-46). This sums up the Law as God hath penned it, and all other commands flow from that.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to co-regulation, meaning both modeling good, non-entitled attitudes to children by one's own self-control. Parents are also to listen and validate, like a sounding board, then maybe giving advice as the child asks for it or else consents. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouithesia) and refers to gentle verbal correction. Children then only showed their energy to their parents, and out of trust - this was considered a form of surrender to parents then. The Greek root word translated παροργιζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to legal damages - think in a courtroom, where the righteous judge has their own court. The presence of damages, meaning the slightest of personal slight perceived by the child, proves abuse. Extra witnesses to the parent abusing the child will serve the same, and boosten a case under moral legal jurisprudence...Justice was collective in the Early Christian churches, and involved collective gaslighting lead to to collective shunning and punishment of wrongdoing, including for things such as provoking your child to anger through defended damages.

Parents and children are to submit to each other, with the parent submitting first, and winning over the respect of the child! It doesn't happen overnight, but it is never too late to have a change of heart and stop punishing, controlling, and/or spousifying things. I may hate parents, but I obey my parents. Why? They are good to me. Mom takes me places after school, perhaps to hike, and takes me out eating. That is exactly what moms are for - meeting attachment needs to do things together with her. This is how parenting was seen in the Bible. Parents were servants of God, meaning they had to sacrifice their own needs for the child, as Christ sacrificed Himself for His children. I am to sacrifice in that way. It is a friendly adversarial way to interact with children, meaning I am their enemy, and I have to work toward being their friend, because I have wronged them merely for existing as an adult.

Let the entitled parents BURN! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!