Temper tantrums: How to deal with meltdowns in children

Many parents, if not most, have to deal with it. Temper tantrums in children. Most parents punish temper tantrums in children, or else ignore them. This is a common reaction by a parent concerning the temper tantrums that children exhibit. The idea is instead to use mammary closeness to deal with temper tantrums in children.

Mammary closeness is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV: 

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents submit to their children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers got out the scourge of cords in order to punish his children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were persecuted largely due to being "too soft" on their children.

Temper tantrums are normal behavior in children. Meltdowns in children are developmentally appropriate behavior. The Early Christians knew this already, and didn't ignore or punish a child for crying. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. Whenever the child cried, the mother cooed at the child before picking up the child, cradling the child next to her bosom in skin-on-skin mammary closeness. When children were tired, mothers would co-snuggle with their children in order to ease them to sleep, in skin-on-skin mammary closeness. When children were milk-hungry, mothers would breastfeed children. Breastfeeding would last until age 2 in most cases, but sometimes all the way until age 6. 

Cooing is a primal sound that a mother makes in order to validate the feelings of the child. Cooing at your child tells them "I am here to listen", in so many words. In most cases, when a mother coos at their child, the child stands down immediately, and is ready to be calmed and reassured. Fathers also cooed at their child, most always in unison with the mother.

When out and about, mothers swaddled their children next to her bosom in swaddling blankets. The child was further tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress of the mother that resembled an apron. The swaddling blankets were tied to the mother's left breast, then across the dot to the right leg, to the mother's right leg, or vice versa, or both in the case of twins. When children cried, they were held closer to the bosom of mothers in the swaddling blankets, in constant skin-on-skin comfort. The swaddling blankets were made of velvet, which was grown throughout the Ancient Middle East.

The purpose of a woman's breasts is not primarily for men to ogle, but for the nourishment and sustenance of young children. For some odd reason, holding your young child up against the bosom area is reassuring to children, including when tied there by way of swaddling blankets. When in the family home, mothers were completely naked, only wearing clothing when going out and about. Children were naked wherever they went, with the littlest of children instead wearing swaddling blankets when out and about. Older children paraded the streets naked. This birth nudity allowed for easy skin-on-skin warmth and sustenance between mother and child. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!