Time-in: Why mammary closeness is the biblical form of time-in

Many parents think that children need time-out, or possibly even a disciplinary spanking. This is a common attitude amongst parents. Most American parents punish their children. However, the fact of the matter is that time-in is the way to go. Mammary closeness is the biblical way of doing time-in.

Time-in is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children dutifully and selflessly, as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children in his time. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers used the scourge of cords in order to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were persecuted largely for being "too soft" on their children.

Time-in is the best way to deal with a child whom is crying and screaming. There is a right way, and a wrong way, in doing time-in. The proper way to do time-in is the skin-on-skin way, meaning mammary closeness. Mammary closeness is when you hold your crying child close to your bosom as a mother, either by cradling the child (in the case of older children), or breastfeeding the upset child to sleep if they are still milk-dependent.

The abovementioned context can be applied in the context of birth nudity, where mother and child were quartered in the nude in the family home, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. Children, for the first 2 years, were held constantly in the bosom of mothers, or else held on her back in a papoose bag. Children aged 2-6 were constantly ranged next to mothers, then held in mammary closeness whenever they were upset or crying. Older children were also cradled in the bosom of mothers when upset. 

Mothers, when their children were crying, cooed at their children before picking them up in mammary closeness. Cooing in mothers is a primal way of responding to crying. Let out a coo, and then rush to the rescue, holding the child right up against your bosom as a mother. When children were little, and breastfeeding, mothers breastfed the child to sleep, at night and during the day.

Breastfeeding is a major part of time-in for young children. In most cases, children were weaned by age 2. However, in some cases, breastfeeding lasted until age 6 or even older. Children are not ready for solid foods until the child refused the nipple. If they accept the nipple, they still need mom's milk. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared and Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!