Righteous parent abuse: How to deal with oppositional-defiant disorder in children

For some parents, their children's behaviors are extremely challenging. Oppositional-defiant disorder (ODD) is a very real disorder. Quite a few children suffer from ODD, which is a mental health disorder constituting chronic oppositional and defiant behavior, as well as vindictiveness. It is a myth that children with ODD need punishment. A child with ODD is difficult to be controlling with, so why try to be controlling with them? The key to dealing with ODD is the acronym of righteous parent abuser. 

Righteous parent abuse is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, where the parents totally submit to the child and the child's wrath. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the sacrifice of parents. This form of surrender to parents came with strings attached, with children issuing lawfully binding orders from a place of rest, usually when parents weren't doing their fair share around the house.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating them as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul definitely didn't get along with women, but he sure loved children, and took in orphaned children. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers used the scourge of cords in order to punish their children, but NOT the Christian among them - the Early Christians were hated largely for being "too soft" on their children.

The key to righteous parent abuse is that, sometimes, you need to take abuse from your child. In biblical times, parents took verbal and physical abuse from their children. Parents, however, did have a defense against an ardently aggressive child. Whenever the child struck out at a parent, the parent at hand cried out loud, exclaiming things such as "You hurt me! You hurt me!". When a child sees your tears, they immediately switch from aggression to crying. Getting a reaction like that can deter children from striking out again.

Children in biblical times, in most cases, had traits of ODD, which served to shake off the constant closeness with mothers. Children in biblical times issued righteous demands towards their parents. Parents were required, in most cases, to obey their children. The only reasons for righteously disobeying children was if the orders issued by the child were unlawful and/or unworkable. This was the normative parenting in biblical times, and today, a child with ODD can benefit from it.

The core of ODD is a strong counterwill. It literally is impossible to control a child with ODD, yet adults seek to control all children. Most children comply at some point. A child with ODD defies their parents with "anyway" gaslighting. The key is not to control them, and leave them order you around as to what they need. The idea is to give up the fight, and give in to the child's demands. You may find that your child isn't asking for much.

ODD is usually secondary to either autism, ADHD, and/or bipolar disorder. Usually, all a child with ODD needs is medication for the primary disorder that is causing the ODD in a child.. Until the right medication can be found, parents are going to have to endure abuse from their child. Children with active ODD cannot be disciplined until the right medication regimen is found.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!