Christian attachment parenting: Upholding the Christian tradition of attachment parenting

Many parents see punitive parenting as a tradition of sorts. Most American parents who punish and reprimand their children cite the Bible as a source for their pro-spanking arguments. The Bible is a common excuse for parents to punish or reprimand their children. However, Christian attachment parenting is what is actually in our traditions as a country. 

Christian attachment parenting is an application of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers are to rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church at Ephesus. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings. 

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, modeling Christian discipline to children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with children following in their footsteps. Children in the Early Church were caught being good, instead of caught being bad. When children were caught emulating the Christian example of parents, - such as by showing self-control or accepting the word "no" - they were lavishly praised by fathers to "keep going down the straight path". Boys were given manly praise when caught being good, and girls were given hugs and snuggles when caught being good. Sometimes, children needed direct parental instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the advice and counsel of parents, meaning parents could only give advice or counsel their children, or else plead with them. Parents were forbidden from issuing lawfully binding orders on children, as they could only give children advice or plead with them. 

For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. Children up until age 6 were seen as babies in the Early Church. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mother and child were in the nude next to each other, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. When children cried, mothers cooed as they swooped in and picked up the child, then holding the child close to her bosom in mammary closeness. Mothers, when out and about in public, swaddled their children next to their bosom in swaddling blankets, then tucking the child underneath their loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron. By nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format. Children continued to sleep next to their mothers in skin-on-skin format until the onset of puberty, which was when most children wanted their own place to sleep. Young children under age 6 were protected by their mother, even from their father's sexual entitlement. Fathers were kept away from young children due to most fathers having a parent attraction to children.

After age 6, children were turned over to their fathers for religious education. Religious education was based off of the model of self-study. A Bible was put out where the child could find it, and then the child taught themselves how to read on the Bible. The role of fathers was to praise and encourage the religious vocation of their child. Children can learn a religion entirely on their own, just by teaching themselves the religion. Fathers bonded with their children, especially their daughters, through righteous masturbation. When fathers followed their sexual thoughts about their children to the end through masturbatory fantasy, they centered their sexual drive, and depressed the sexual instincts of their parent, with the sexual drive of the father coming out as a male nurturing instinct. Under the Law, as applied then, fathers who had sexual relations with their daughters for any reason - including to correct - were charged with fornication. In the Old Testament, sexual relations with children was a capital offense.

Christian attachment parenting is in our traditions as a nation, and is a part of our Christian heritage as a nation. We as a society glean from the Bible and its context for instruction as to how society should be set up. New biblical research into the Hebraic context of the Bible finds that the rod of correction was only used as a form of legal correction, in the case of the 40 minus 1 lashes, and only in the Old Testament as a last warning before putting an adult offender to death. The Early Christians never used corporal punishment, and parishioners who participated in Roman floggings or executions were excommunicated from the church. Punitive parenting is still common because the European pagan peoples did not want to give up their punitive parenting habits when the Roman Empire converted to Christianity.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!