Thursday, July 27, 2023

Temper tantrums: How to deal with temper tantrums

Most all parents, if not all, have had to deal with it. Children throwing a temper tantrum. Most parents punish tantrums and meltdowns in children. This is a common reaction amongst American parents. Most American parents punish tantrums and meltdowns in children. The fact of the matter is that the answer to temper tantrums is not punishment or reprimands, but sustaining warmth. 

Temper tantrums are treated using the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, where a crying child surrenders to the loving arms of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:
Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments, reprimands, or controlling demeanor towards a child. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings.

Children, throughout history, have thrown temper tantrums. Children in biblical times, therefore, have thrown their fair share of temper tantrums. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning wherever the mother went, so did the child. Mother and child were in a state of birth nudity, where both mother and child were in the nude next to each other, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. 

When children cried, mothers picked up their children and cradled them like babies, then engaged in skin-on-skin co-snuggling with their children. Mothers were naked when in the family home, and that was to serve both their children and their husbands. Mothers served their children by providing for them mammary closeness when they cried or were upset. Mothers also offered children to breastfeed if they were still milk-hungry. Children up until age 6 were coddled as babies, with children being breastfed until they pushed away the teat on their own.

When out and about in public, mothers swaddled their children to their bosom in swaddling blankets, perhaps breastfeeding their child in public if summoned to by their child. From there, the child was tucked underneath the mother's loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron. The swaddling blankets were made of velvet, which was grown throughout the Ancient Middle East. The swaddling blankets were tied to the left breast, then across the dot to the right leg, or vice versa, or both in the case of twins. When children cried in public, they were simply held closer to the bosom of mothers, and perhaps offered to breastfeed if that is what they needed. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! 

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