Judeo-Christian family values: How to teach Judeo-Christian values to children - without spanking or punishment

Many parents want to teach their children Judeo-Christian family values. This is a common desire for American parents. Most American parents want to teach their children good Judeo-Christian values. Most American parents think that the only way to teach our nation's Judeo-Christian values is to punish children with punitive parenting. The fact of the matter is that attachment parenting teaches Judeo-Christian values even better than punitive parenting. Any values system can be passed down through attachment parenting, including Judeo-Christian values.

Judeo-Christian values center around the avoidance of entitlement. The Greek root word denoting entitlement, and cross-referencing the Tenth Commandment, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, want, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, entitlement refers to the slightest of unattainable want. When a want may lead to a temper tantrum if met with the word "no", don't want it, and avoid that want at all costs. Most entitlement comes from a deserving attitude, where people think that they are deserving of things in life. The fact of the matter is that YOU, as a responsible adult, are deserving of absolutely nothing, not even in relation to children. Deservances are to be earned by hard work, and are handed to you by someone else. Children are watching your every move as an adult. If you show entitlement around or towards children - including even parental entitlement - they will learn that it is okay to show entitlement to get what they want in life, when in reality, you have to earn what you want in life.

Judeo-Christian non-entitlement is a good example for children to follow. However, every good example needs something to back it up. Punitive parenting does not work, as it leads to resentment, and drives away children from the Truth. Attachment parenting is the only way, as it backs up a Christian example with a secure attachment. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as vulnerable extensions of God. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitle,ment. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards a child. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined undet the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child. Paul repeatedly advocated on behalf of children in an anti-spanking manner in his writings.

Mothers in biblical times gave children nourishment and sustenance, namely attachment parenting items such as breastfeeding and skin-on-skin comfort. For the first 6 years of a child's life, they were in constant closeness with their mother, with children ranging besides mothers or else wrapped up in swaddling blankets next to the bosom of the mother. After turning 6, children started to explore more, playing outside while supervised by parents. This was about the same time children started exploring the Bible, the book where they learned to read off of. Children would venture away from home a little bit while under adult supervision, and then return to home base, with home base being the sustaining warmth of mothers. This cycle kept on until children were fully independent from parents. Fathers were there to encourage bold feats of independence in children, and to be their best playmate. Fathers formed a secure attachment to children by witnessing the skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy between mothers and children, by wanting in as a part of a sexual attachment to the child. Fathers imprinted on children through masturbatory orgasm, and this pro-social fantasy created a close bond between father and child. This bond was both playful and encouraging on the part of the father. The mother was the more serious parent, but in a warm way. Fathers were not allowed access to children, including even to touch them, without the mother's permission.

By that time, children had absorbed the Judeo-Christian values of their parents, and stood by them, wanting to be like their parents, growing towards the example of their parents. When children have a secure attachment with parents, they want to be like their parents, idolizing their parents with affection and fondness. In an attachment parenting home, parents are the cool kids on the block that children strive to be like. Children slowly absorb the Judeo-Christian values of their parents, meaning they do pick up on the values all on their own, but they do it at their own pace. Children's natural curiosity can lead them to Judeo-Christian conclusions, if those values are present in their environment. Punishment only discourages a child's natural curiosity, and leads to resentment and rebellion. 

What parents did in biblical times was leave out a Bible for the child to read. Usually, the child found the Bible, and was engrossed in its text. From there, it was a question-and-answer conversation about God and Jesus, with a warm and encouraging tone to it. Religion is a natural need for children, and children will form their own theologies on their own, if left to their own devices. Model to children how the Bible is to be followed, and if you have a secure attachment with them, they will follow your lead and apply the Bible based on your example. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!