Crying: Why crying is not bad behavior

Many parents have had to deal with it. A child crying in the store. A child crying in the restaurant. All children cry at some point in their childhoods. Most American parents think that crying past a certain age is somehow bad behavior. The fact of the matter is that crying in any child, regardless of age, is not bad behavior. All children cry for the same reason a baby cries - they want love!

Comforting a crying child is known as time-in, and there is a right way and a wrong way to do it. Time-in is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission between parents and children. Parents are to be submissive to children, just as mankind is to be submissive to God, with parents being the enemy of them/Him. In return, children are to rest safely and securely in the love and submission of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as vulnerable extensions of God. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing children too many times. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong. Paul here was lifting up this legal context to a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child. 

Children, in biblical times, wore absolutely no clothing, at all, until they became adults. Women only wore clothing outside of the home, and otherwise went in the nude, in order to serve both their husbands and their children, separately. Mothers served their children by way of providing for them nourishment and sustenance, namely using attachment parenting items such as breastfeeding and skin-on-skin comfort. When children cried or were upset in biblical times, children clung to mothers, and mothers held children, in skin-to-skin format, next to their bosom, in mammary closeness. Mothers, when out and about, held their young children next to their bosom in swaddling blankets, maybe offering the child to suckle their teat if the child was milk-hungry. Older children who cried or became upset were scooped up underneath the mother's dress in skin-on-skin format. 

How does a mother apply the abovementioned context? When a child is crying or upset, and you are at home, simply disrobe, and invite the child to throw off the clothing. Then, embrace in skin-on-skin format, holding the child in mammary closeness to your bosom. When out and about with your child, take the children to the ladies' room, and fit the child that is crying or upset underneath your shirt, and maybe offer them to breastfeed if they are milk-hungry. 

Fathers can also help out. Fathers should not step in and scold children who are crying, as this was not done by fathers in the Bible. Fathers should kneel down to the level of children, and reassure crying or upset children with the phrase "this too will pass", maybe embracing the child if the child asks for a hug. Fathers were very distant from their children in biblical times, in a way that was intended to protect children from the sexual entitlement of fathers. Children were not allowed to be touched except as the child allowed, and fathers were only allowed around the child when the mother gave her blessing. Fathers were like playmates to children then when allowed around their children, with fathers reeling themselves down to the level of the child easily, being silly and playing innocent games with children. Mothers were always there to supervise, and were the primary caregivers of children. Men that were fully pedophiles did help out quite a bit more than most men, as they had a strong drive to nurture children, guided by their sex drive. Other men payed more attention to their wife than their children, and focused on protecting her. 

All children cry sometime during their childhood. Children cry for various reasons, including even just attention. When children cry for attention, give them some attention. That's all they are asking for. Children have five basic categories of needs; food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachment - and and the greatest of these needs is attachment! The core of attachment needs is attention. Usually, children who cry just want to be held, cuddled, and loved. They don't need punishment in order to "behave".  

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!