Autism spectrum disorder: Why the fetal position quells autistic aggression instantly

Quite a few parents have to deal with it. 1 in 68 children will be born with autism. Autism spectrum disorder is a mental health disorder where the individual specializes all their energy and talents in one area. Most people are generalizers, meaning people generally generalize on facts. An individual with autism specializes all their knowledge and talent in one area, excluding and abandoning all other areas of fact. This specialized setup can cause serious learning disabilities for individuals with autism, who are designed only for that one thing. Usually, autism comes with another disorder that may cause aggression and oppositional-defant traits.

I myself have autism. As a child, I was aggressive and defiant. Most adults did not know what to do in order to deal with my aggressive behavior. In various school settings, I was restrained, secluded, and punished. Most parents of children with autism think that seclusion policies are the way to go, and at my old school, the parents pushed the seclusion policies as part of their Lovaas ABA agenda. Lovaas is an intensive form of ABA. Many schools like the one I went to also have behavioral specialists that consult with parents at home, implementing false behaviorist measures in the home. As an advocate for children, I am not for any sort of behaviorist intervention for children, but instead for attachment-based methods in dealing with children. The ultimate response for open defiance or aggression should be holding the child in the fetal position. The fetal position quells autistic aggression instantly, with the right nurturing attitude towards the child.

The fetal position is a concept that exists within the context of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. Parents are to be submissive to children, just as mankind is submissive to God, with parents being the enemy of them/Him. In return, children are to rest safely and securely in the love and submission of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children as they would submit to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as vulnerable extensions of God.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children too many times. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong. Paul here was lifting up this legal context in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child.

Children, in biblical times, wore abosolutely no clothing, at all, until they became adults. Women only wore clothing outside the home, and otherwise went in the nude, in order to serve both their husbands and their children, separately. Mothers served their children in biblical times by way of providing for them nourishment and sustenance, namely using attachment parenting items such as breastfeeding and skin-on-skin comfort. When children were especially aggressive or defiant, in biblical times, mothers grabbed hold of them, and curled up with them on the ground, in the fetal position. This shut down the aggression and defiance instantly. Children with autism lived in those times, and children with autism were either "stand-beside-me" children who simply stood beside mothers, or else were very cuddly and snuggly with their mothers into the young adult years. Both types of children were prone to aggression at times. Usually, mothers responded to aggression with tears, but when a child was highly energized - as can happen with autism - the child was treated with the fetal position in order to calm down the energized nervous system of the child with autism.

The broader environment for the fetal position treatment should always be in a situation where the child has a secure attachment with parents and caregivers. Children with autism are capable of making strong bonds with others. Their ability to make strong bonds with others starts with how strong of a bond they have with their mother. Being in relationship with mothers teaches children with autism how to form and keep social relationships. Some with autism are interested in making friends, and some of us don't care much about making friends. I pretty much only want children to be my friend, due to being a pedophile. Pedophilia is a form of immature autism where the autistic specialty is in children, including in terms of who the individual wants to be their friend, with this specialty being guided by low-level sexual preference. It is not a psychopathic or antisocial disorder. Secure attachment is when your child trusts you in everything, enough that they will confide their every emotion and upset into you, at natural intensity, not inhibiting themselves or their emotions in anything. 

The fetal position should ideally be done in skin-on-skin format, to add extra comfort for the upset or agitated child, in the form of mammary closeness to children. In public, obviously the fetal position cannot be done in the middle of a store. That is when you wait until you get to the car, and then curl up in the back seat, tucking the child underneath your shirt.

In school settings, it is a myth that new laws prohibit touching a student for any reason other than to restrain them. Here in Pennsylvania, under 22 Pa. Code §14.133, "briefly holding, without force, a student or eligible young child in order to calm or comfort him...". Treating a child with the fetal position usually involves picking them up and curling up with them on the ground in order to comfort them through the upset. School policies may prohibit this intervention, but state laws allow it, and official school policies usually allow it as well. Some force may need to be used with older students, but only in the form of a forced tackle/hug that can be made to be playful in nature. 

Children with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) usually need the same kind of positive behavioral supports that a typically developing child needs. Most of the attention in terms of making parenting more gentle and non-punitive is directed towards children with autism. The reasons for this non-punitive parenting are also pertinent to non-autistic children. Most autism parents seek to form a bond with their children, and teach their children through that bond. That's what all children need. However, a child with autism is like a mirror - they reflect to you clearly what you are doing to them, and do to you as a parent what you are doing to them. This is known as echolalia, and this is why lawful trauma shows more in autistic children than in typically-developing children. ALL children need the type of close bond that autism mothers aim for. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!