Pro-social self-loathing: How to deal with parent anger

Many parents think that they have the right to get angry with their children. This is a common belief amongst American parents. Most American parents feel like they are entitled to becoming angry with their children, which is entitlement in and of itself. The fact of the matter is that anger at children is a form of perjury, and that form of perjury can be solved by parents loathing their sinful heart. 

It says in Romans 3:9-18 KJV:

What then? are we better than they? No, in no wise: for we have before proved both Jews and Gentiles that they are all under sin; As it is written, There is none righteous, no, not one: There is none that understandeth, there are none that seeketh after God. They are all gone out of the way, they are together become unprofitable; there is none that doeth good, no, not one. Their throat is an open sepulchre; with their tongues they have used deceit; the poison of asps is under their lips: Whose mouth is full of cursing and bitterness: Their feet are swift to shed blood: Destruction and misery are in their ways: And the way of peace they may not known: There is no fear of God before their eyes.

This passage was written to Roman Christians in the 1st Century. The Roman Christians were becoming prideful and boastful in their Christian faith. The Apostle Paul was convicting them of their original sin, and did so by listing all the ways the Roman Christians were like the Roman pagans that they said they were not like. Today, this passage is a testament from God as to how He feels about humanity. God hates all mankind, so much that He doesn't want us to even exist. By default, all of mankind is marked for deletion. Only a few of us - the elect - will be saved by the saving grace of Jesus Christ. The rest will suffer the second death, which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment. God hates all of mankind especially because of the one-sided incursion on child-kind by adult-kind. We, as adults, are depraved and decadent sinners deserving of absolutely nothing but DEATH and PUNISHMENT merely for existing in relation to children, and are to submit to the every vulnerable need of children based on that fact, just as we submit to God. We are all abusers towards children as adults, and need to atone for our abuser status.

It says in Matthew 5:21-22 KJV:

Ye have heard that it was said of them of old time, Thou shalt not kill; and whosoever shall kill shall be in danger of the judgment: But I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment: and whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca, shall be in danger of the council: but whosoever shall say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire.

The default position of the Bible is that it is wrong to get angry, at all. Getting angry "without a cause" refers to righteous judgment. Righteous judgment is based on the presumption of innocence in all people, beyond a reasonable doubt, with judgment guided by reasonable suspicion. Only adults could be judged under the righteous judgment that existed in Jesus' Jewish culture. Children were judged in Ancient Jewish culture as sacrosanct, meaning they could do no wrong, even when they did things that were considered wrong under the Law. Children, therefore, should not be subjected to the anger of parents, as it is unlawful under Christian law to pronounce judgment onto a child. 

How should parents then avoid being angry with their child? The Greek root word denoting Christian discipline is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to non-entitlement to the level of undeservingness. Discipline, for the Christian, comes when he/she comes to the attitude that he/she is a depraved and decadent sinner who is deserving of absolutely nothing, from children or anyone else. True discipline does not come from pride and self-esteem, but from humility and self-loathing. The idea is to loathe your anger, meaning hate yourself for the fact that you a depraved and decadent sinner/adult capable of anger towards a child. The idea is to find fault in yourself, not your child, and then regard oneself as deserving of absolutely nothing for being capable of being angry towards your child.

Once the sinner/adult takes the attitude that they are a depraved and decadent sinner who is deserving of absolutely nothing, for being capable of anything, including anger at one's child, the anger that would face your child now faces yourself. This inward-facing anger then percolates to the point of dissolution. At the same time, the sinner/adult feels worthless due to being a depraved and decadent sinner towards their child, and so they are convicted to do good works for their child in order to earn their worth. These good works consist of Christian love for a child, namely prioritizing children first, and oneself last, to the point of dutiful and selfless submission towards a child, expecting absolutely nothing in return. This love is Christian Agape love, and is denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao).

Parents are to submit to children as they would to God, being a slave to children just as they are to God. Parents in biblical times were seen as bondservants towards their children, working with their children towards a lump sum, which is independence and self-reliance in children. Children were seen as extensions of God, meaning installments of God called to righteously judge parents and other adults on how charitable they were to children, reporting straight to God. Children were seen then as having a deity of their own, with parents seeking to win over the deity that was their child. Parenting manuals existed then, and they put the fear of God into parents, stating that if even one iota of the child's listed needs were neglected, that the parents would be cast into Hell. Parents are to loathe themselves in relation to children, simply regarding themselves as their slave or servant, vacuuming up the messes, wiping tears away, and doting on children hand and foot, knowing how worthless they are, in order to earn their worth by being a good parent. 

When you humble yourself to this degree towards your child, you don't get angry. Parent anger is a low-level form of anger that can be eliminated completely, if you work at it. When you don't get angry at children, parenting is a breeze. Your righteous anxiety and worry will then take control of your parenting, with parents having concern for certain maladaptive behaviors, but never anger or wrath. Parent anger is chased out by humility and conviction, to the level of pro-social self-loathing.

The parent entitled parents who provoke children to anger with their parent anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!