Why adult authority does not exist - and why parents are supposed to be caregivers (not lawgivers/lawmakers)

Many parents and adults think they hold authority over children. This is a common belief amongst American parents and adults. Most American parents still see themselves as in charge of their children. This is a common view for parents - that the parent is in charge of the child, as opposed to taking care of the child. Adult authority is a concept built up by the Bible, and so it can be destroyed by the Bible as well, when the Bible is interpreted the correct way.

The Fifth Commandment is repeated in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children just as they would God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Children are to rest safely and securely in the presence of parents, trusting parents in all things, following mothers around especially like a gosling to a mother goose. The Greek root word translated "parents" is γονεύς (Latin: goneus) compares parents to bondservants, as parents were seen as bondservants working with their children for a lump sum - independence and self-reliance.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a slave for things they did wrong. Paul here was lifting up this legal context in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child.

Parents, in biblical times, were to be submissive to their children, just as they would be to God. Parents were to be bondservants to their children, just as mankind is called to be a bondservant to God. Children were seen in biblical times as extensions of God, meaning installments of God called to be righteous judges of how charitable parents and adults are to children. Children were seen as deities of their own, with parents wanting to be on the good side of that deity which was their child. Parents completely avoided provoking the wrath of their children by giving them everything they need and almost everything that they wanted. This ultimately translated to providing for children nourishment and sustenance, namely attachment parenting items such as breastfeeding and skin-on-skin comforting strategies.

Parents and other adults in biblical times were not lawgivers or lawmakers in the family home. Parents were not seen as "in charge" of children. Parents and similarly charged adults were seen as caregivers of children, not authority figures that were "in charge" of children. Children were, in secular terms, seen as young people who were in need of constant care around the clock, and this care often came in the form of skin-on-skin comfort and sustenance, as well as nourishment such as breastfeeding and also feeding children as much food as the parents could afford. Children in biblical times were allowed to demand their needs, and once those orders were put in, parents and similarly charged adults had to provide for children. Children were in the providing custody of parents while still living under their parents' roof, meaning parents were charged by the religious authorities to provide for a child's every vulnerable need, including benign wants that count as attachment needs.

Adult anger at children was next to non-existent in biblical times, meaning adults didn't get angry at all with children, apart from a few who were seen as deserving of death for daring to subject a child to anger and rage. Parents did this by declaring themselves a depraved and decadent sinner, deserving of absolutely nothing, from children or anyone else. Adult anger towards children usually comes from a deserving place, and so the idea is to take an undeserving attitude towards all children. Once you come to the knowledge that you deserve absolutely nothing from children, you will start to feel better about them, and your parent anger will, in fact, be eliminated over time, until it is all gone. It will also prompt you to do good works for your child, and make their day!

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast in to the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend in to the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!