Parent anger: Why parents shouldn't get angry at their children (and how to purge that anger)

Many parents feel like they have the right to get angry with their children. This is a common belief amongst American parents. Most American parents get angry now and then, including many gentle parents who struggle with parent anger. The fact of the matter is that the Bible forbids getting angry with children as a parent or other adult.

It says in Matthew 5:21-22 KJV:

Ye have heard that it was said of them of old time, Thou shalt not kill, and whosoever shall kill shall be in danger of the judgment: But I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment: and whosoever shall say, Raca, shall be in danger of the council: and whosoever shall say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire.

The phrase in the King James Version translation "without a cause" means that any anger is acceptable within the confines of righteous judgment, meaning a court of law. However, children cannot be judged under the Law, as they cannot be expected to keep the Law due to youthful inexperience. Children are still learning the Law, and so imposing legalistic anger, or any anger, on a child, discourages them in their religious education. Children are sacrosanct under the Law, meaning they can do no wrong, even if they do. It is good not to get angry with a child at all. 

The Early Christians, as well as their Jewish predecessors, never got angry with their children or any child for that manner. With Early Christian parents, as well as Jewish parents in the Old Testament, the emotion of anger was missing when directed towards the child, with parents only getting angry to protect their child. Any parent who showed anger towards their child was seen as a viper and a monster, meaning anger, and the person holding the anger, was seen as a menace to their child. Parenting then was motivated not by anger, but by righteous anxiety and worry, with parents worrying about their children when they got out of sorts instead of lashing out at them. I myself am like that - I never get angry at a child, and laugh when they get energetic and run around the place in public. Parents in biblical times laughed at the mischief of children, and never took it personally. I am the same way.

How does a parent purge themselves of their anger towards their child? The Early Christians took an undeserving attitude towards their children, in a loving and submissive way. The Greek root word denoting all kinds of entitlement in the New Testament, including parental entitlement, and cross-referencing the Tenth Commandment, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, this word refers to wanting things from children, period. Most parental entitlement, including most all parent anger, in particular comes from a place of deservingness, where parents and other adults feel that they deserve things from their children. The fact of the matter is that parents are depraved and decadent sinners who are deserving of absolutely nothing, from children or anyone else. 

When you take an attitude that you deserve absolutely nothing from children, you don't get angry with children like most parents do. The idea behind curbing parent anger is taking the attitude as a parent that you are a depraved and decadent sinner, who is deserving of absolutely nothing from your children or any child. Then, the anger turns inwards and is directed towards your sinful self. Parent anger comes from when parents feel that they deserve things from children. Then, the anger comes out. You are deserving of absolutely nothing as a parent. Not even respect. Not even forgiveness. God can take away that child any time He wants, and sometimes, He does take a child away from his/her parents. You do not deserve to even have your child in your care. So, cherish your child, and DON'T be entitled enough to get angry at that child.

I myself, as an adult, am a depraved and decadent sinner deserving of absolutely nothing, and am undeserving of even my mere existence due to being a pedophilic adult. I struggle with adult sexual entitlement as a pedophile, meaning I want, at the lowest level of me, sex with a child. I am deserving of absolutely nothing from a child. Not even affection. Not even forgiveness. I am a depraved and decadent wretch deserving of nothing but DEATH and PUNISHMENT just for existing in relation to children in our society. I am grateful for all the forgiveness my child victims have afforded me, and ask nothing more from them.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast in to the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!