Adult attraction to children: Why all adults are responsible for the sexual abuse epidemic

Many parents and adults think that only pedophiles are responsible for the outbreak of child sexual abuse in our society. This is a common view among adults, and it is used to deflect onto a small group of people their own responsibility as adults. The fact of the matter is that all adults are responsible for their sexual choices in relation to children.

Many people misunderstand how child sexual abuse occurs. Many adults think a pedophile falls in love with a child, and then pushes that "love" onto children. That's how it works some of the time, but rarely. Usually, sexual abuse of children has little or nothing to do with pedophilia, but instead has to do with ordinary adult sexual entitlement. Usually, child sexual abuse, for the perpetrator, is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity, and the abuser is not prepared beforehand for being in such a situation, usually being alone with a child who they are attracted to, usually a pre-teen or teenager. 

The key to preventing child sexual abuse is for all adults to take up individual responsibility for their sexual desires and choices in relation to children. It is not up to other adults to stop a sexually entitled adult from sexually abusing a child. Instead, it is up to the individual adult themselves to stop themselves from abusing a child sexually.

Every single adult has the capacity to be sexually attracted to children, and all adults have the capacity to sexually abuse a child under the right/wrong conditions. The key is to be aware of your sexual attractions to children as an adult. It is okay to be aware of your sexual attraction to children, even in the biblical tense. The Greek root word translated "lust" or "inordinate affection" in the New Testament is επιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to ordinary sexual desire, but sexual desire to the point of taking the first steps to approach a child for sexual purposes. When the child perceives the approach, it becomes child sexual abuse, with the perception from the child coloring the sex offender's intent in reverse coloration format.

It is not good to repress anything as powerful as a sex drive, especially when that sex drive is directed towards children. When sexual thoughts about children occur, it is good to allow yourself to have them, and let them flow to the end. The more you allow yourself to think sexually around children, the less repressed the desire will become. A repressed sexual desire for children has the tendency to come out sideways on a child, usually in a once-in-a-lifetime situation where an adult is left alone with a child they find attractive. 

When you don't acknowledge that crush for a child, it leads you into places where you don't want to go, yet you go there because you haven't harnessed that side of you. So, the next time you notice attraction, even secondary attraction, towards a child, masturbate, and keep masturbating until you are sexually satisfied. A lot of adults get child crushes, especially those who work closely with children. It is good to acknowledge those feelings, or else those feelings will rule your world, and also that of an innocent child.

Child sexual abuse is not merely an urge that a sex offender has succumbed to. It is a myth that certain adults called pedophiles "can't help it". Adults can help it when they are attracted to a child, but they choose not to usually, meaning they don't make the correct lifestyle choices to prevent child sexual abuse. Being at risk of offending isn't about whether you are a pedophile or not, but whether you own up to all of your sexual being, including that which is directed towards children. 

The depraved and decadent, defiled adult fornicators who provoke children to anger through child sexual abuse will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever punished with torrents of Hell-fire! Repent!