How to teach Judeo-Christian family values to your children - without spanking or punishment

Many parents want to teach good values to their children. Most American parents want to teach Judeo-Christian values to their children, but think that the only way to do so is punishing children, including with spanking and corporal punishment. Judeo-Christian values can be taught with attachment parenting strategies.

The Greek root word denoting entitlement in the New Testament, and cross-referencing the Tenth Commandment, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to, officially speaking, want, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, this Greek word refers to the slightest of unattainable want. It is not good to want anything in life, but we all do, and so it is good to ask politely for things we want, accepting that we can't always get what we want. When what you want will lead to a temper tantrum upon hearing the word "no", avoid that want at all costs, and do not want it. Children can't help but throw temper tantrums, but YOU, the parent, can be calm and collected when subject to the stress of life. This includes having discipline when your child's self-control is breaking down. When a child is throwing a temper tantrum, and YOU as the parent lash out in anger, doesn't that make two people throwing temper tantrums? When children are throwing a temper tantrum, parents should remain calm and disciplined, listening to and validating the upset of the child. Parental entitlement is the core of our entitlement as fallen human beings, and is to be avoided at all costs.

On the other hand, discipline, in the Christian tense, is denoted by the Greek root word παιδεία (Latin: paideia), and refers to a specific standard of Christian discipline that starts with an admission of a depraved and entitled sin nature in a parent or other adult believer, ending up with an attitude that is entitled to nothing, and grateful for everything, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Children should not be expected to emulate this chastened up example right away, as children are immature and impulsive. They are learning, by your disciplined example, not to want things of this world. A child should want to be like good, disciplined parents.

A good example needs to be backed up by something. Punishment and controlling tactics don't work, as they drive children away from the good example of parents, and also models controlling attitudes towards others. Attachment parenting is the way to reach out to your child and win them over to following your example, making them want to be like you by earning their like. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, with parents sacrificing for their children, just as Christ sacrificed for His children, prioritizing children first, and themselves as parents last, loving children and submitting to them as parents would their neighbor. Parents labor, toil, and work to win over the good graces of children, and children rest securely in parents. Attachment parenting was the established norm in Ancient Judeo-Christian society. In Ancient Israel, attachment parenting was mandated under Jewish customary law. In the Early Church, attachment parenting was mandated under church ordinance. This Greek word lifts up the context for the relevance of all.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, at minimum, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in the context in which it was given, as a prohibition against any form of punitive parenting, including all punishment and controlling demeanor towards children. Patrias postestas translates to "power to the father" or else "power to the parent", and refers to the right of a male head of household under Greco-Roman law to use any force he sees fit to police his home. No analogous law existed under Judeo-Christian law. Punitive parents, in the Old Testament, were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children too many times, and after receiving many warnings that they were violating the Law. Any parent who punished their child, meaning issued a legal warning or command and backed it up by an aversive consequence, were charged with kidnapping, with kidnapping here referring to any taking of hostages - punishing children was seen as taking them hostage for something they did wrong. Paul was lifting up this moral legal context, and rebuking Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking, whipping, and punishing children into the church. "Biblical spanking", as a false and abusive teaching, does not come from the Bible, but from mistranslations into Latin which the Roman Catholic Church used to pander to European pagan cultures that beat and whipped their children into submission.

The national parenting of Ancient Judeo-Christian society was a special, distinct form of attachment parenting where children were deified, in the form of pro-social deification and pro-social child worship. Children in biblical times were worshipped and venerated as extensions of God, with parents struck with reverent fear and terror for their child's every vulnerable need, being compelled in the Lord to submit and yield to the every vulnerable need/want of children, knowing you are their enemy, just as mankind is the enemy of God and is called to submit as such. The every expressed need of a child was seen then as a lawful and binding summonses, with parents being summoned by the every cry and demand of their child, with such demands being Divine Law.

How did this deified parenting pan out in real life? Children went naked wherever they went. Women went naked also, in the family home, in order to serve their husbands or their children, separately. Mothers served their children by giving them nourishment and sustenance, meaning breastmilk (up until age 3) and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy (especially during co-sleeping). By day, children ranged beside mothers, sometimes clinging to her. By night, children slept next to mothers, being guarded from all threats external and domestic, soaking up the rays of skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy with mothers. Fathers also nurtured, but from afar, usually by encouraging children on their religious vocation. Fathers spoke to children on formal terms, until children allowed for fathers to "break the ice" and engage in casual interaction. Even then, the mother could veto the interaction if it was deemed unsafe by her. These stipulations were in place because most adult men in Ancient Judeo-Christian culture were pedophiles towards their own children, usually meaning that they had a connotational sexual attraction to their children that wasn't driven in nature, and simply gave extra motivation to nurture children. Fathers were allowed sexual fantasy about their children, but all sexual abuse was prohibited, including any sexual harassment. Both parents submitted to being ordered around by their child, placing the child in the role of being the boss of their own needs.

Attachment parenting makes children want to follow the good example of parents. Spanking and punishment of children simply drive children away from the good example of parents. Attachment parenting is the time-honored method of gaining cooperation with children over the long run. Children will have behaviors until they are ready to follow their parents' example, however. These behavior are automatic, and come with their given stage of development. They are usually a phase, and if left go, they go away soon after they come up. Crying needs reassurance, in a way that models good Christian discipline to children as they are throwing a tantrum. Children can be expected to follow the example of parents by the time of maturity, or maybe later in the case of developmental disorders such as autism or ADHD. Maturity, in attachment parenting households, usually comes younger, usually around the time of puberty, but for some children, it comes later, such as around age 18.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!