Children call the shots: Why children have authority over their parents

Many parents think that they have authority over their children. This is a common belief among American parents. Most parents think that they call the shots, whereas the Bible, in full, states that children call the shots. The fact of the matter is that children are the boss of their own needs.

The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting home is Christian Agape love for children, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, with parents sacrificing for their children, just as Christ sacrificed for His children, and with children resting in the love and grace of parents. Parents labor, toil, and work to win over the good graces of children, and children rest in that love and good works, being the extensions of God that they are. Attachment parenting was the established norm in Ancient Jewish culture, including the Early Church. In Ancient Israel, attachment parenting was mandated under Jewish customary law. In the Early Church, attachment parenting was mandated by church ordinance. This Greek root word lifts up the context for the relevance of all.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, at minimum, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in the context in which it was given, as prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor towards children, with the Apostle Paul educating Greek Christian newcomers who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Patrtias potestas translates either to "power to the father" or "power to the parent", and was a Greco-Roman legal defense that allowed for fathers to use whatever force necessary to police their homes. Jewish law, including Christian ordinance, had no analogous legal defense for fathers to police their homes. Punitive parents, in the Old Testament, were put to death by bloodletting, meaning hanging them bloody, if they punished their child enough times, and it was documented by other family members. The concept of punishing children for misdeeds doesn't come from Judeo-Christian family values, but Greco-Roman values. The Roman Catholic Church used Greco-Roman parenting standards as an alternate context to pander to the punitive parenting biases of European pagan cultures who beat and whipped their children into submission.

The national parenting of the Ancient Jewish people, including the Early Christians, is a special, distinct form of attachment parenting that deified children, in the form of pro-social deification and pro-social child worship. Children were worshipped and venerated as extensions of God and His Authority on earth, with parents being struck with reverent fear and terror for their children's every vulnerable want/need, and with parents being compelled in the Lord to surrender and submit to their child's every vulnerable need, as an enemy to their child, just as mankind is the enemy of God and is subservient to Him as such.

Children call the shots in a true biblical parenting home, with children bossing parents around, policing them for their every vulnerable need, in true policing attachment format. Children usually policed their parents in biblical times by barking orders at their parents, demanding their needs and wants, and with parents rarely saying "no". 

I myself take orders from children. I am afraid of them, but I am not scared of them or insecure around them. I fear children reverently, meaning I let them boss me around, and let them tell me what I am expected by them to do. I let them set the expectations - for me. I follow what they expect of me. A child usually expects five basic categories of needs to be followed; food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachment - with the greatest of these needs being attachment. Attachment needs are basically quality time spent together, in a way that builds a secure parent-child bond with children. Allowing children the front seat in meeting their needs, and including them in the discussion, instead of having them take a back seat, is crucial for their needs. If I ever have children, they will be the boss of their needs, as children naturally know what they need, and communicate it by wanting things, with their every want reflecting what they need.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!