Why parents are to please their children (not punish them)

Many parents think children should be kept down and punished for their misdeeds. This is a common reason for punishment and abuse of children in the United States, and it is rooted in false religion. The false religious teaching is that a man is to please his wife and keep down his children. The fact of the matter is that a man is to please both his wife and his children.

The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting home is Christian Agape love, as denoted in the New Testament by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This form of respect for parents does not come from fearful compliance, but comes from restful trust in parents, with children feeling safe confiding anything and everything that is on their mind to parents, including admissions of wrongdoing or non-conforming traits, expecting absolutely no punishment or reprisal in return. Attachment parenting was the established norm in biblical times, and customary law mandated it then. This word lifts up the mandate on attachment parenting and having a secure parent-child bond.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, especially child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, at minimum, is the slightest of personal offenses perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment, when understood in its original linguistic and legal context, prohibits all punitive parenting of children, including punishment of children. The Apostle Paul here was lifting up the Law to love children as your neighbor and not provoke them to anger. Spanking does not come from the Bible, as the rod verses refer to judicial corporal punishment, with the father appointed by the state to punish an ADULT child. Punitive parenting comes from the Roman Catholic Church pandering to European pagans who punished and beat their children as a way to keep them down. The Judeo-Christian tradition then was that of attachment parenting, not punitive parenting of any kind.

Parents in biblical times were expected to please children. Children in Ancient Israel and the Early Church were deified in how they were treated. Children were seen as extensions of God, and could issue lawful and binding orders on parents. Parents were expected to treat every demand and cry from a child as Divine Law, and give children most of what they wanted, and everything that they needed. Children sat on their throne, being pampered like royalty, being worshipped like deities, and not having a worry in the world. Children were held high above their parents in terms of status, and had immense lobbying power to get what they wanted from adults. It is a myth that children were treated like property in biblical times.

How was this done in practice? Children went naked wherever they went, and mothers were naked in the family home traditionally as well, to serve their husband and their children, separately. Children ranged by their mother., and clung to her in the nude at times, by day. By night, children slept next to mothers, with mothers co-sleeping with their children as an attachment parenting tradition of that culture. The lawful and binding orders occurred when a young child woke the mother up in the middle of the night to be fed, meaning with mother's milk. As children got older, they demanded things, and parents did their best to provide, pleasing the child.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit thr Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!