Why "back talk" is not sin

Many parents resent children "talking back" to them. This is a common belief in Christian homes, with children being punished for opposing their parents regularly in the United States. However, talking back is not sin in relation to parents, as respect for parents meant something different for children in the Early Church.

Every single parent and adult is guilty in relation to children, and is deserving of DEATH and DESTRUCTION merely for existing in relation to children, with parents/adults being meek and shamefaced in relation to children, with parents being shut up in the Lord, silenced by their Creator for their risk to their child. Parents especially are to esteem their children above all else, putting children first, and parents last, leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every need, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting securely and safely in parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to be able to tell parents anything and everything under the sun, expecting no punishment or reprisal in return from parents. Respect for parents, in biblical times, meant feeling safe enough to tell them anything, including to tell them off, as the abovementioned Greek root word refers to a freeing form of restful submission, meaning a safe form of surrender into the arms of parents, where children could issue order and make demands or petitions for a redress of grievance. Children could easily petition their parents to move because they didn't like their old house, to give you an idea of how righteously indulgent parents were then.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages, or the slightest of personal offenses perceived by the child, including the slightest of offensive touch, speech, with this prohibiting striking or punishing a child for any reason, deeming it abuse. Anything that offends the child is child abuse. The Apostle Paul here was lifting up the Law on punishing children to Greek Christians who were punishing children, a violation of Christian church ordinance then. Under the Law, punitive parents were subject to severe penalties for punishing or otherwise controlling their children, including death by bloodletting (hanging up parents like poultry) in the Old Testament. The rod verses in Proverbs are repealed verses, meaning they only apply to the context they are given, and only as wise sayings that don't apply today. The seven rod verses in Proverbs refer to a dated form of judicial corporal punishment - the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction, as a final warning before putting an errant ADULT son to death. Only adult men were whipped with the rod of correction, not women and not children. Minor children were not whipped because they could not be charged with a criminal offense or civil wrong, due to youthful inexperience, meaning the defense of infancy existed for all children under the Law.

Mothers and fathers had different roles in raising children in biblical times. Mothers nourished their children with breastmilk in the early years, and provided sustenance such as skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy throughout childhood. Mothers slept next to their children every night, up until adulthood. Fathers were simply best friends and encouragers to children, on an equal level, with fathers having connotational sexual attraction to children due to the equality of the parenting. Fathers were dragged around like a human ragdoll by their children. Children went in the nude all of the time, and this brought the parents' level of attachment to the equal level. Most mothers and fathers did not have a physical aggression instinct, meaning they couldn't feel anger towards their child, as was the conditioning of society then.

The goal of every biblical parent then was to form a secure parent-child bond. The more common form of secure attachment was the deepest form of it - policing attachment. Think a child with an outstretched stophand towards a parent. Children in Ancient Israel as well as the Early Church policed their parents to get their needs, drawing lines in the sand as to what they would tolerate from parents, with parents surrendering to the assertiveness of their children, giving in and giving up the fight with the child. Children were absolutely welcome to talk back, and when parents couldn't take it anymore, there was a ball of tears at the end of their rope, not anger or aggression towards children of any kind. Children demanded and ordered things from parents, and then children were served, perhaps at table, the food of their choice perhaps, if it was on the menu. Children advocated for their needs as an order then, and parents provided.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!