Why "back talk" is not sin

Many parents believe in keeping children down by not allowing them to "talk back". This stance is often defended by the Fifth Commandment. However, the fact of the matter is that back talk is not banned in the Bible.

Every single parent and adult is guilty in relation to children, and are deserving of DEATH and DESTRUCTION merely for existing in relation to children, with parents/adults being meek and shamefaced in relation to children. Parents especially are to esteem their children above all else, placing children first in terms of priorities, and parents last, leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every need, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents, with parents being attendant caregivers, and parents being a safe place for children to share their every emotion, thought, upset, or frustration, not mincing words or haltering their choice of vocabulary. Talking back was not sin in the Early Christian church, but in fact a sign of respect. Respect then was feeling safe enough around parents to be brutally honest with them about how you feel and what is on your mind. Attachment parenting was the established norm in ancient Israel and the Early Church both. Think a mother carrying pales of water, with a young child wrapped up next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, feeding off her breast. There with another child, in the nude, next to her mother. That's how close parenting was in biblical times. Children went in the nude, and didn't leave the line of sight of Hebrew or Christian mothers and fathers, resting in their love and supervision.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages, or the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child. The Apostle Paul here was bringing up the Law concerning punishing children, meaning the Apostle Paul was anti-spanking and was warning the Colossian church of the idolatrous, pagan custom of spanking children that they were tolerating. Punishing a child carried severe penalties under the Law, meaning it was seen as deserving of death. In Paul's time, the death penalty was abolished in the Early Christian churches, but punitive parents were excommunicated with quite a bit of bloodlust. The several rod verses in Proverbs and Hebrews do not refer to spanking, but to a specific, dated form of judicial corporal punishment that was rare, and connected closely to the death penalty - the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction, as a final warning to save an errant son from the death penalty. Usually, these offenses were either against the state or against children, and the offender was always an ADULT child of a Hebrew parent. Punishing a child, in and of itself, incurred the punishment of whipping once the defendant was convicted in a criminal court of law. There was only one whipping, and then you were put down.

Children were allowed to talk back in the Early Christian churches of God. Children related to their parents in a form of secure attachment known as policing attachment. Policing attachment is the deepest form of secure parent-child bond. Children gave orders and demands to parents, without mincing words, and parents gave in and gave up, surrendering to the demands of their children, crying and never lashing out in anger when at the end of their rope with their child. All of this context should be able to be modified today, and there are ways to hold in anger in a manner that induces tears instead - simply accept how helpless you are as a parent, and don't try to use anger to change the situation with your child. Your child should then, as they usually do, take your tears seriously.

Back talk was very common in biblical times. Children were demanding, for sure, but they were seen as rebellious in nature in order to appease, not keep down, meaning if you didn't keep your children happy and content, the societal belief was that you would be run aground as a parent, and your children would eat you up, so to speak. Thus, talking back to parents was welcomed by parents, as they wanted to know clearly and explicitly how their child felt, and their emotional temperature. Biblical parents, in reality, were very warm and loving parents. 

Children, so much as being allowed to talk back, were allowed to cause mischief, meaning mischief of varying degrees was tolerated by parents in biblical times. Every once and a while, the children played practical jokes on the adults, and the adults laughed it off. The mischevious nature of children was seen as endearing by Hebrew and Christian parents alike. Usually, parents didn't encourage mischief in children, but some abusive parents did, and they got the death penalty, literally in the Old Testament, symbolically in the Early Christian churches. Childhood mischief was usually along the lines of vandalism, when left to develop on its own, and the parents later cleaned up the mess. It was just making messes and laughing about it, meaning children were being goofy in a way many adults today would find destructive. The modern way to apply this is when your child draws on the wall, or something along those lines, you just laugh with the child, and remark about how beautiful the drawing is, then clean it up when they aren't watching or caring (they then usually move on to something else). Just a sigh is how a parent should feel, and maybe think it is funny at the same time. Parents in biblical times likely had no physically aggressive instinct towards their children, with fathers only holding tendencies of connotational sexual attraction towards their older daughters in particular.

Children absorb lessons about morality, meaning you don't need to create structure for them, such as stifling disagreement in a child. A child who draws on the wall doesn't understand the reasons why it is wrong, and as long as their brain is the size and shape that it is, they won't understand. Christian parents in the Early Church knew this instinctively, hence why they tolerated some goofing around and some mischief from their children. Children then were either demanding or silly, and parents were on their level as they grew up.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is Hell and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!