Why temper tantrums are not bad behavior

Many people think temper tantrums are bad behavior in children, and worthy of punishment. This is a common belief among parents, and one that is patently false in nature. Temper tantrums are normal in children, and are not to be punished or kept down.

Every single parent and adult is guilty in relation to children, and is deserving of DEATH and DESTRUCTION merely for existing in relation to children, with parents/adults being meek and shamefaced in relation to children. Parents especially are to esteem and prioritize their children before even themselves, with children coming first, and parents last, to the point of submission to the every vulnerable need of children. Children are to be allowed to rest in the love and grace of parents, with this love being denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao). Surrender to parents is restful in nature, and an emotional respite for the child. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your parents to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Attachment parenting was the norm in biblical times, with mothers holding their children close, wrapping up their children in swaddling blankets, with children being held warm and close to the bosom of mothers, in skin-to-skin closeness. Many times, children threw temper tantrums, in which case parents simply listened to and validated their child's upset.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to provocations to anger against children, as defined as the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, namely the slightest of unwanted touch perceived by the child. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul and the surrounding legal context as prohibiting all punitive parenting, including punishments and control such as spanking and corporal punishment. The Apostle Paul here was rebuking Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking children into the church, justifying it with Scripture. The seven verses in the book of Proverbs that describe the rod of correction are repealed verses, and references a dated form of judicial corporal punishment unique to the Old Testament - the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction, which was administered only to ADULT children of Hebrew parents, in a courtroom after a conviction of a capital offense. Children could not be charged with any criminal act or civil wrong due to youthful inexperience, meaning the defense of infancy. Hebrews 12:5-11 also references the rod of correction, but as a figure of speech common in ancient Jewish culture for enduring hardship.

Temper tantrums are a means of communicating for a child. Children do not have the vocabulary necessary to communicate on a rational, adult level. Also, they are brand new to the world, so certain things are more shocking to children than they are to adults, namely when petitions to parents are declined. 

Temper tantrums can be avoided by avoiding the word "no" or its various variants except when absolutely necessary, because a certain requested item or want is either unsafe or unattainable. Otherwise, parents should compromise with their child, allowing young children options. But, if they add an option, add it to the list of options for them to consider, and if they tantrum after choosing, then they changed their mind and simply need to be reassured and comforted. 

Most temper tantrums are grief from the word "no". Some are due to sensory input of certain sort that is threatening to them. Very young children will cry like an infant does when they are tired, in which case, if you happen to be out and about, reassure them of all the steps that it takes to get home, such as "Okay, now I am going to the produce department to buy apples" and then delineate your every move until you get home so they can rest, and when they rest, try to find time to rest next to them. A tired child is impatient in a very understandable way - they want to be home, not cooped up in a shopping cart. If you can just swaddle them to your bosom as a mother, perhaps with swaddling blankets fresh out of the dryer, that would solve the problem in an instant, and breastfeeding isn't out of the picture as well at that age. But, for school-age children, they usually hate the word "no", in which case, as stated in the previous paragraph, the word should be avoided except when the child is in danger of being harmed or the request is completely unrealistic or unattainable.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into everlasting fire and torment, which is Hell-fire, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!