Why children are allowed to talk back in the Bible

Many parents think that children should not talk back, which basically means children are not allowed to have an opinion that differs from their parents. However, simply making a parent feel disrespected is not a sin in the Bible. The Fifth Commandment prohibits elder abuse and that's about it. 

Every single parent and adult is guilty in relation to children, and are deserving of DEATH and DESTRUCTION merely for existing in relation to children, with parents especially being obligated to be meek and shamefaced in relation to children. Parents are to love their child as a neighbor, prioritizing their child's needs above their own, leading to complete dutiful and selfless submission to children, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting securely and safely in relation to parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Attachment parenting was the norm in ancient Hebrew and Christian cultures alike, and is a time-honored tradition throughout ancient history. Children were wrapped up next to mothers in swaddling blankets, being held close to the mother's bare skin with children being nude also. Child submission is not silent and shamefaced submission to parents, but a loud and boisterous rest in the love and grace of parents, allowed to either be free in play or else intimately close to parents. The Greek root word translated "parents" is γονεύς (Latin: goneus) and refers to leadership, but that of a caregiver, not of a lawgiver. Parents merely are caregivers to their children, and must take the input of children, no matter how harshly it is worded.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to provocations to anger against children, as defined as the slightest of offense perceived by the child. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul and the legal context that he was writing from to prohibit all physical and other forms of punishment, as well as any control in parenting. Paul was addressing Greek Christians who were misusing Scripture to justify the pagan ritual of spanking children, namely the book of Proverbs. The seven verses in Proverbs referring to the rod of correction are repealed verses, as they refer to a dated legal punishment that we don't have today - the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction, administered in a courtroom (meaning NOT in a family home) after an ADULT child of a Hebrew father was sentenced to death by the Sanhedrin, as something to endure for a second chance at life. The Early Church did not practice nor endorse corporal punishment of any kind, especially towards children who were unable to be charged with a criminal act or civil wrong under Jewish or Christian law. 

Children in biblical times were very demanding and defiant, as policing attachment was the normative form of secure attachment in the Bible, and the kind recommended by rabbis and church elders to Christian parents. Think a child extending a stophand. Children were allowed to order around their parents, and demand things from them in order to get what they need, without mincing words. Children were tone-deaf in their honesty about their needs, and parents simply surrendered.

The proper Christian attitude, as was the attitude then, is that if you don't dote on your child and give them the love and care that they need, they will eat you up in order to demand what they aren't getting. In Christian homes in the 1st Century, parents did get along with their children, but while towing a thin line, because children would otherwise get aggressive if their every single need wasn't met, and some were omitted. As children get older, they get less defiant and demanding, and they do this on their own because of stages of development, which have been proven to progress naturally. This is in most cases. If your child regresses in terms of outbursts, they likely have a mood disorder of some kind, and need medication before parents can expect the behaviors to go away. Bipolar children and children with mood disorders need LESS structure, not more. Parents in biblical times had casual friendships with older children especially, and used attachment parenting on younger children especially such as co-sleeping and the use of swaddling blankets. Friendships with children were cooperative, in the form of a caregiver/ward type relationship.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive or permissive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death! Let them descend into everlasting Hell and torment, suffering God's wrath forevermore! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!