Reverent rebellion: Policing attachment as a command in the Bible

Many parents believe rebellion against parents is a bad thing that is prohibited of children in the Bible. This is a falsehood about the Bible. The Bible does not condone keeping down rebellion, when understood in context. It condones the toleration of rebellion and defiance in a family home by parents, until said rebellion isn't there.

Every single parent is guilty in relation to children, and is deserving of DEATH and DESTRUCTION merely for existing in relation to children, with parents especially being obligated to be meek and shamefaced in relation to child, with parents prioritizing their child's needs above their own, putting children first, and parents last, leading to total dutiful and selfless submission to children, leading to total acceptance of children, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting in the unconditional Christian love of parents, with this love denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao). Children issue lawful and binding orders that is their needs, and parents submit lawfully and dutifully, toeing the line and reverently fearing the rebellion of their children, being charitable nonetheless. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Attachment parenting was the norm in biblical times, with children being wrapped up in the swaddling blankets of mothers. There are different variants of secure attachment, and the one most endorsed in biblical times was policing attachment. Think a child with an outstretched stophand, ordering parents around, issuing lawful and binding orders as to their needs. Children then were not expected to mince words around parents, and stated their needs openly and loudly. Children, however, oftentimes cried for the love of parents and even physically battered parents because they didn't have the words to ask politely as to what they need. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to provocations to anger imposed against children, as defined as the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul and the legal context he was writing from to prohibit any form of punitive parenting, including any punishment and control, such as spanking and other forms of corporal punishment. The Apostle Paul here was addressing Greek Christians who held onto the pagan custom of spanking children, and corrected their justifications using the book of Proverbs. The seven verses in Proverbs that depict the rod of correction are repealed verses, as they deal with a form of dated legal punishment - the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction, which was applied by Hebrew fathers to ADULT children after being convicted of a capital offense in a court of law. The Early Christians did not practice either capital or corporal punishment, as Christian law is based on the concept of pro-social non-association, with any entitled individual worthy of collective shunning, and then excommunication (1 Cor. 5:11).

Why must parents have a policing attachment bond with their child? Children don't know how to "ask nicely" for something they want/need. Children have as complex of wants, needs, and worldview as adults, but don't have the words or impulse control to ask for what they want politely. Policing attachment means they just bark the orders, and parents quietly tip-toe to meet the child's needs and benign wants. Any want that is attainable and safe is a benign want, and is an attachment need of the child, since it comes from YOU.

Children literally can't, at a young age, "ask nicely". They ask the way they ask, and then they amp things up until you are overpowered by their policing force, and are convicted to meet their needs and surrender to their needs. This can mean barking orders at parents, crying for the attention of parents, or even striking out at parents. All behavior is communication, and all behavior is intended to elicit a need or a want to be a provided for, and needs are closely intertwined with wants, meaning a want most always points to a need, as a want that is provided for comes from YOU. All attachment needs come from an attachment figure, thus anything a child wants comes from YOU, thus is a need.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death, which is Satan's final fate! Let them descend into everlasting Hell and torment, suffering God's Wrath for all eternity! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!