Most parents want to teach their children manners. Most think children can grasp the concept of manners. Eventually, but not immediately, meaning children are naturally impolite, and the idea is appease the nature of the child, not punish it or forcefully meld it like clay. Children aren't as malleable as you might think.
Common mannerisms such as saying "please" and "thank you" come from the Christian doctrine of non-entitlement, which is the framework of all our norms in this country. As a parent, you are entitled to nothing from your child, and are to be grateful for everything in relation to your child.
The Greek root word denoting entitlement in the New Testament is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to parental entitlement in this instance, meaning officially, wanting things from children to the point of imposition. However, merely wanting something from a child out of place may lead to entitlement, in which case it is sin nonetheless.
When we want something from someone as a society, we get around the non-entitlement requirement by saying "please" and "thank you". The only way around this is a lawful and binding order, meaning a plainly stated order that is backed up by shunning of some type. In marital relationships, this means the silent treatment, where the husband does not speak to the wife until she fesses up. Parents are simply leaders, not heads of their children, and have no lawful authority over them until they come of age and move out.
Parents, when they ask something of their child, are to say "please" to allow the child to decide for themselves whether to listen to parents, and then "thank you" to show gratitude. Each word in the English language serves a purpose when we can't get gratuity any other way but by righteous pleading.
Children take after their parents most times, and thus the more polite you are towards a child, the more polite they will be towards others. Politeness in anyone is based on gratitude. Gratitude is an undeserving feeling of satisfaction, where you have everything you want, and want nothing in return. The more you want from others, the more entitled you are. The goal is to want nothing from anyone by default, and be grateful for what you have, and if you want something from your child, ask politely and do not demand anything from a child.
The depraved and ungrateful parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!
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