Discipline: Why parents need it (not children)

Many parents believe they need to discipline their child by imposing discipline onto their children. This is a common parenting fallacy. Most parents in the United States "discipline their children", usually with punishment or controlling measures. The fact of the matter is that children don't need discipline. They need nurturing and love from a disciplined adult.

God's Law reads in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor thy father and mother, for this is the first commandment with promise; That is may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to anger: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to a Christian standard of discipline in a parent in relation to a child, with parents being entitled to nothing, and grateful to everything, including regarding respect from children. A child owes her parents nothing, and her parents owe her everything, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or anyone else, with this leading to a chastened up example in parents for children to follow, backed up by the rare agreed-upon warning that a wanted item or activity is either unsafe or unattainable, as a righteous test denoted by the Greek root word νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to a warning that an activity or item is unattainable or unsafe, and once a child does not heed this request, it is let go as a righteous test that assumes that the child is not ready for their behavior to be criticized to that degree. Most childhood behavior is a phase, thus a child simply needs a good, disciplined example, and everything else will pan out from there. 

This is all weighed by the Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" which is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to provocations to anger imposed upon children, based off of the offenses system that prohibits provoking your neighbor to anger. It is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child. The Apostle Paul and the surrounding legal context intended this commandment to prohibit all punishment and control of children, including corporal punishment such as spanking and whipping. Greek Christians were misusing the book of Proverbs to justify their pagan custom of spanking children. The seven rod verses in the book of Proverbs are repealed verses, as they refer to a specific, dated legal punishment - the 40 minus 1 stripes with the rod of correction.

Every single parent and adult is guilty in relation to children, and are deserving of DEATH and DESTRUCTION merely for existing in relation to children, with parents putting their child first, and themselves last, leading to dutiful and selfless submission to the every need of a child, expecting absolutely nothing in return, leading to rest in the love and grace of parents, with this rest being denoted by the Greek root word υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This ultimately refers to secure attachment, and attachment parenting is a time-honored tradition that was practiced in ancient Israel and adjoining churches. The Early Christians also practiced attachment parenting, with mothers wrapping up even older children in swaddling clothes, with the children in the nude, being held to their mother's bosom, with even toddlers suckling breastmilk from mothers, with children being weaned by age 3. Older children alternated between free play with siblings within the line of sight of parents, or in intense closeness to mothers in particular, clinging to her for safety and security by day, and sleeping next to her by night. This form of closeness is motivated by the Christian love of the parent, which is denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to selflessly putting the needs of others above yourself, and this means children come first, and parents last. That is God's order of the family. Sorry, parents, but that's the way it is.

Children need to be disciplined, but they can figure out discipline without parents being lawgivers. Parents are supposed to be caregivers. Think the nurse in the pediatric ward - YOU as the parent are to be that attendant onto the needs and even benign wants of children to that degree. Parents are in the role of selfless caregiver because that is how children come to respect parents come adulthood. Parents are to be disciplined, but in a caring and charitable way that invites the child to take after parents, and be disciplined themselves while honoring the example of their parents, being forever grateful for their care, coming to parents for tender loving care, as well as guidance for life problems, until their parent's dying day. Even as an adult, the moment you go to stay over at your parents, the more you should be treated as a child, with that kind of hospitality towards adult children, with the family home being home base. Even when adult children come home to mom and dad, they should feel safe enough to rest securely in the love and grace of parents, and be cared for while in their temporary providing custody.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the Hell of everlasting fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath for all eternity! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!