What is pedophilia? (and why most pedophiles are safe around children)

Note that I say pedophiles are safe around children. Most pedophiles, by age, are adults, and all adults are guilty merely for existing in relation to children. However, that guilt is not equal for all adults, meaning some adults have less guilt to work against due to the societal prohibition of child sexual abuse.

Pedophiles are simply adults attracted to children under age 14. Pedophilia, according to attachment theory, pedophilia is the parental attachment to children that is of sexual nature. This means connotational attraction usually, meaning usually a connotational projection of sexual attraction onto children. Most pedophiles are safe to be around children, in contrast to popular belief. In fact, many times, the safest place for children is with pedophiles.

Pedophilic desire can be understood as like looking through a lens, with that lens largely grafted by the parental instincts of pedophiles. It is a form of antisocial traumatic dissociation in this regard, meaning the more trauma a pedophile has, the more the pedophile will desire children sexually, especially when they are worried about a child. Most pedophilic abuse is about genuine concern for a child that grew overzealous in nature, in a policing way, with the abuser being an antisocial "cop" jumping in to protect, but hurting the situation more than helping. Most pedophiles merely feel such things, whereas predators find a way to get involved.

I myself find that anxiety medication helps with traits of pedophilia such as anxiety about children being hurt. Today, even, it is a major sensitivity, where you sometimes feel the need to reassure a crying child that isn't even yours, or else fear the reaction of the parents as if it was happening to you. Before, when I was more toxic, I would actually freeze and stare in the middle of the store as a child was being scolded, or was in danger of verbal abuse by my perception. Most pedophiles experience anxiety of that sort to some degree, but I myself would fixate on children as a way to dissociate from traumatic reactions to children being hurt. Pedophobia is a common phobia associated with both trauma survivors and/or pedophiles, and for similar reasons. Most survivors of child sexual abuse actually are not trauma-informed professionals, but are ordinary people who may stand out by never having children. The only main difference between that and the pedophilic version of fear of children being harmed is that pedophiles are attracted to their triggers, meaning we seek it out to "know it is there" and we feel a need to "be reminded" of the child's suffering, even if I couldn't reassure or console it, because I "had to do something". Some fears were avoidant, but pedophilic fears were attracting fears. Other times, I had a crush on a young girl, and didn't want to be reminded of that underbelly that might be her home life. I once thought a crush of mine was grounded, and then I found myself puking a bunch of nothing in the trash can at the pool, because my stomach bothered me. Thankfully, I now know the girl was never grounded, and didn't have that type of mother. A pedophile, generally, is a parent to all children, but with sexual connotations. Those connotations rarely reach the child, but when the child perceives them, it is child sexual abuse, meaning adult fornication.

Most pedophiles are safer around children than even an ordinary gentle parent, and there is a reason why. Most have not internalized the societal entitlement of parents and other adults towards children, and at the same time felt pressure due to the rightful prohibition of adult-child sexual relations to adapt to society and internalize said prohibition. Most pedophiles have learned not to have much of any entitlement towards children, meaning they don't really want what they want from children. It is the rare adult that has zero entitlement around children, and most of us as adults want at least something from children. This is the guilt we are convicted of as adults, but not all of us have the same level of guilt. It depends how much you have under your belt at the moment, and how much you had to lose in order to surrender to children and show them respect. Most pedophiles have far less under their belt than I do. I myself am guilty of the moral counts of antisocial "rough-play" (the focus of an ongoing investigation of my platform) and antisocial "flirt", both forms of child sexual abuse once the child perceives the intent. 

Most pedophiles are simply a bunch of guys that don't hate children or childhood in the slightest, but fetishize children and childhood, meaning they may have a whole fact basin of facts about children that they remembered from various places, despite not having much to do with children. It is a feeling more of being a parent to every child, and sometimes feeling the urge to reassure crying children, but for certain children of a certain age and gender, there are sexual connotations added to the parental intuition that I feel for children. The connotations are just there, and I enjoy the view. I have learned that even the mere perception of sexual intent of mine from a child is adult fornication, meaning child sexual abuse, meaning the moment they sense my intent, the moment it is abuse, even if they like it, due to the sexually impure nature of the interaction that defiles the adult until the even. 

It is not a sin or a crime to be mentally ill, and pedophilia is a mental illness, and simply one of many that society needs to understand. Anyone who can admit to being a pedophile using the verbiage "I am", just as I am, is not a threat to children in the slightest. Most pedophiles are more of a danger to themselves than to children, with most pedophiles, according to one poll on the Virtuous Pedophiles forums, contemplating suicide of some sort. It is good to be a pedophile, I say as a Christian, because being any mental illness means owning up to it and treating it, which is a step in the right direction. First, we need to break the stigma, which starts and ends with parents accepting their children with pedophilic disorder. I support full openness on this issue, on mental health grounds - open up the airwaves to mental health treatment of pedophiles, meaning you should be able to admit to the disorder everywhere and find support, in all segments of the American population. That way, we know what we are dealing with, and we know how to treat it in order to prevent abuse before the fact, and at that point, the abuse would be out in the open for all to judge and scorn. The parental rights lobby currently controls the information for their own entitled purposes. Parents are the real abusers, not pedophiles, as parents in America do a shoddy job at protecting children, with pedophiles being among those former children who were abused by parents, with their trauma and their pedophilia being stepped on today by the parent lobby.