Good Christian manners in children - Why they start with parents

Most parents want children to have good manners, but don't know how to teach them. Many children across this country are punished for having poor manners alone, or at least verbally berated. The fact of the matter is that Christ taught by example, and so should parents towards their children. Be polite to children.

Entitlement is based off of the Tenth Commandment, which is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to wanting things from children, or wanting them to do things for you, to the point of seeking to impose said want onto a child. Imposing selfish wants onto a child is the definition of parental entitlement. Any want leading up to that, as per the definition of this Greek root word, is entitlement after the fact.

Wanting something from your child is one thing, but how do you obtain it. Want is one thing, but mere want of anything from children is not a moral crime. But, how do you ask for what you want? That is what matters. 

DON'T SAY: "Get over here! Dinner is ready"

STAY: "Would you please come over here? Dinner is ready." and then "thank you" to every request where the child responds 

Note the "please". You are giving children a reason to say "no" to your request, and reason with you as to why, and otherwise, saying "please" and "thank you".

God's commandment for parents and children is one of mutual submission, not parents giving orders. It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest and trust in the love and grace of parents, coming from sacrifice for children, taking up the cross for them, in the spirit that Christ sacrificed for His children, with children resting securely in the sacrifice and warmth of parents. This word ultimately uplifts the traditional Judeo-Christian parenting context of the Bible, which is attachment-based in nature. Children in the biblical context went in the nude, and it was legal and acceptable, and this was so that mothers could treat children as old as 3 with skin-to-skin contact, also breastfeeding them until that age. Children up to age 3 were treated as infants behaviorally. Children then were attached to their parents in a policing way, meaning they demanded their needs from parents, and parents supplied, with children not mincing words, and parents surrendering to the demands of children, no matter how harsh parents are, with parents being in the role of therapist or counselor. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to "stirring up" upset and resentment in children. Vs. 21 was a command from God through the Apostle Paul to prohibit spanking and corporal punishment, and other forms of punishment or harshness towards, with the slightest of offense perceived by a child being child abuse under the Law. Spanking and corporal punishment was legal under Greco-Roman law under patrias potestas and the Hellenistic custom of corporal punishment was infiltrating the Early Church. Paul would have none of it in the Christian churches he oversaw. He handed out, alongside the epistle, attachment parenting manuals for parents to observe, with the traditional parenting of the Christian church being exemplary based on Christ's Living Example, meaning parents were selfless for a reason - those were the values they wanted to impart onto children. Christian parents also warned children lightly and gently when they were crossing a line, but simply kept them safe and reassured when they didn't understand the boundary being drawn.

Say "please" and "thank you" to your children, at least in your tone. Children can boss you around, because they may not have the words otherwise. YOU model to them how to communicate respectfully and with good Christian manners by showing good manners when asking children of something, imparting a good Christian example that teaches values to children.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!