The attachment parenting traditions of the Bible

Many parents believe in "traditional" parenting, meaning parenting that is traditional to their culture. However, we have one culture, the American culture, and that culture does not know its true Judeo-Christian parenting roots, which are rooted in attachment parenting, not punitive parenting.

The rod verses in the Bible refer figuratively to corporal punishment, not literally, meaning a figurative symbol of believers being chastened up in the Law. The rod verses in Proverbs only cater to a narrow audience in ancient Israel, namely young men and their fathers, while written to their fathers, as a figurative warning to the young men, meaning not children, of the legal penalties of violating the Law. The rod of correction was figurative then of enduring hardship. The passage in Heb. 12:5-8 refers to enduring hardship as well, including as a parent.

It says in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor thy father and mother, as this is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents, with parents sacrificing for their children, as Christ sacrificed for His children; with parents taking up the cross for their children, just as Christ took up the cross for His children; martyring oneself for one's child, just as Christ martyred Himself for His children...and then children rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, listening to parents to show gratitude and thanksgiving for their good works and patience. The Greek root word υπακουο uplifts the attachment parenting traditions of ancient Jewish culture, including 1st Century Christian culture. Child nudity was legal everywhere in the biblical context, and that was because mothers used skin-to-skin contact and sleeping next to their children to bond with them, and then earn respect and compliance later, as mothers were also were unclothed in the home alongside their children. Children up to age 3 were put in swaddling clothes and bound to the bosom of their mothers, and then they grew up to be very independent and resilient in some ways, meaning young men especially were very resourceful then.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to the chastening of the Lord, meaning exemplary teaching in the form of self-discipline in relation to children. This is a listening type of self-discipline that does not react to tears or upset in a child, but responds in a way that restrains parents in the tears and upset of children, while simultaneously listening to and validating the upset of children. Being a self-disciplined, non-violent example for your child, and treat them with the respect you want them to treat others, and then watch them take your example, at least at some point. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the word "no" and its various variants. Parents should explain why the answer is "no" and when children don't listen, don't enforce consequences or punishment, but supervise and keep them safe. You should only have to say "no", as a parent if your child is endangering themselves, as usually otherwise, a vulnerable need is behind the unreasonable demand. Usually, they want attention, so give them some loving attention, doting on them. 

This is all weighed by the Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to the moral count of provoking your neighbor to anger, in this case counting children as one's neighbor. Basically, the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, stemming from entitlement, is child abuse, which is a moral crime, which is sin. The Apostle Paul here is giving a command from God to not punish or be controlling with a child in any way. Greco-Roman parenting heavily relied on corporal punishment to control children. Judeo-Christian culture, however, opposed punishment of children entirely. The Apostle Paul handed out parenting pamphlets, namely manuals for raising children in the Lord using attachment parenting, meaning being an extension of Christ to your child, giving without receiving, by way of detailing how Jewish parents did it during the time of Moses, as furthered by Christ. Skin-to-skin contact was recommended for mothers to form a bond between parent and child, and fathers were to be more involved in their child's life. Pedophilia and parent sexual entitlement was seen in Judeo-Christian culture then as a part of parenting, but a bad habit to get into, as well as an unfortunate connotation many fathers attach to their children, while it maybe being a clinical celebratory statement when the father was stressed.

Attachment parenting is the natural law of the land, meaning we as Americans should evolve in our understanding of civil rights for children, meaning they have the right to be free from domestic violence and sexual assault/rape, including physical and mental punishment of any kind. Life. Liberty. Pursuit of happiness. Child abuse violates all three, at least at some level of severity.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! Let them burn and descend into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them suffer and be tormented forever and ever, with God turning their back on them for their choices that He foreknew from the very beginning! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!