How to deal with temper tantrums

All parents deal with temper tantrums to some degree. Many parents spank or punish children just for throwing a tantrum. Fits of anger are a moral crime, but a child cannot be prosecuted for anything done while being a child - but adults can be prosecuted for fits of anger! 

It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to providing custody, which means providing for the every demand of children, including tearful ones, including aggressive ones, with children resting in the love and grace of parents. Parents are to be safe people for children to deposit their emotions onto, like a safe deposit box, with children feeling free to express their emotions towards parents, without having to mince words, with children owing absolutely nothing in relation to parents, but nonetheless with children showing gratitude for the listening and grace of parents by listening to the voice of parents, meaning a voice that reassures and doesn't evoke fear of punishment. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers literally to "stirring up" anger in children, and is shorthand for the Greek language idiom "stirring the pot" and refers literally literally to the offenses in the legal context of the Bible, meaning the torts and damage system under the Eighth Commandment, including assault and battery laws that protected children, as the "reasonable chastisement" defense is a European idea, not a Judaeo-Christian idea, rooted in the Roman legal doctrine of patrias potestas, meaning men have the right to women and children as property, including disposal thereof. The Hebrews were more humane to children.

Listening to a child's temper tantrum involves self-control enough not to lash out in any way at your child's upset. The idea is to be a safe person for their upset, with the child's denied request, for your child to unleash their upset onto yourself as a parent, with you listening and saying validating statements like "I'm here". A way of using listening language is "I understand that you want X, but it won't work/we don't have enough money, etc." If a compromise is possible, compromise with your child.

Some children are physically violent in their tantrums, in which case the ideal parent would resist their child using non-violent resistance, as did parents in ancient Israel. It says in Matthew 5:38-39 KJV:

But it hath been said, An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth. But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whomever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also.

This means that when your child, perhaps with mood disturbances, slaps you across the face, turn to your child the other also. It is called pro-social punching bag, where you invite the child's upset onto you. With a child with bipolar disorder like I was, that would include allowing children to "get it all out" like a sneeze by fashioning yourself as the target of their aggression, to the point where you are in tears and hopeless, which is when such children usually snap out of such rage attacks. Rage attacks are sudden outbursts of rage due to extremity of mood climate, either in terms of mania or depression.

Parents in ancient Jewish culture were close to their children, with children up to age 3 were swaddled next to their mothers, with children sleeping next to their parents at even older ages. Children channeled all their energy and frustration towards their parents, with parents simply taking a child loudly demanding to go for a walk as an attachment need, meaning a need to be together. 

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them suffer in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for the evil one and his accomplices! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!