Formal vs. informal speech with children (speech as a guide to attachment)

Many parents insist on formalities in parenting with their children, while enforcing none on themselves. Think a fat woman in a wheelchair forcing a young girl to act prim and proper in Wal-Mart. Many parents are hypocrites in this regard, meaning most of them - accusing children of "having bad moods" and "not being positive". YOU avoid bad moods and be positive as a parent, then watch your child follow by.

The Tenth Commandment in Exodus 20:17 KJV:

Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's house. Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, not his ox, nor his ass, nor any thing that is thy neighbour's.

The Greek root word translated למחוד (Latin: lachmod) and refers to wanting something from a child to the point of seeking to impose said want onto a child. The Greek root word cross-referencing the Tenth Commandment refers to the concept of entitlement, and is denoted by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers here to the entitled attitude of "I am a/the parent, and I deserve respect from my child" leading to demanding, controlling, punitive, or sexually hateful/objectifying behavior impose on a child, leading to abuse by way of perceived offense. 

Parent-child relationships, like all adult-child relationships, are based on the concept of mutual submission, which is stated in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to providing custody, meaning children resting while parents are caregivers and servants to children, supplying the every demand of children. This can be understood in terms of speech. I am not deserving of anything but the worst of the brunt from children, meaning I am not even deserving of interaction with children to the level of speech. A child reels me in as to how much I can speak to them, and when they allow for casual conversation, stoop to their level, and be as immature as they are. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and literally translates to "stirring up" anger and upset in children, referring to the Greek idiom "stirring the pot", and literally literally refers to the offenses in the Bible, meaning the torts and damages under the Eighth Commandment, including assault and battery laws, which also benefitted children as well as adults. Basically, the slightest of offense perceived by the child, coming from the entitled attitudes of adults, with this including physical battery, or the slightest of personal touch in relation to children.

Speak to children only on their terms, or not at all, meaning you as an adult are not even deserving of that. The formal position of an adult is the assumed position, meaning hands behind one's back, shamefaced, relishing in one's guilt merely for existing as an adult, knowing your individual collective crimes against children throughout history, and only having casual conversation with even your own child when invited. Otherwise, be in silence while children play amongst each other.

Children in the biblical context surrendered to parents in casual close format, with mothers especially martyring themselves for the good of children. Closeness meant chatting with children, and letting children lead parents to their interests and play, with parents, especially mothers, being immature alongside children, on their level. Children first, parents last - the motto of all good biblical parenting!

The depraved and entitled parent will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, languishing in the flames of Hell-fire, descending downward, with God turning His back on the evildoer towards children, then finally putting the evil one in his place! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!