Why discipline is for parents, not children (primarily)

 Many parents believe in disciplining their child. Most parents believe punishment and discipline are the same thing. God opposes the punishment of children, and discipline is a form of self-control. Parents need to stop controlling their children, and control themselves.

It says in Hebrews 12:5-8 KJV:

And ye have forgotten the exhortation which speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not thou the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of Him. For whom the Lord loveth he scourgeth every son who he receiveth. If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as sons, for what son is he whom the Lord chasteneth not? But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then ye are bastards and not sons.

Replace "son" with "parent", and you get the picture. The Greek root word translated "scourge" is μαστγόω (Latin: mastigoó) and literally refers to the rod of correction, which symbolically could mean many things, including chastening oneself up in the Lord as a parent, without corporal punishment, but figuratively "cracking the whip" on yourself with your attitudes of self-behaviorism, or else accepting a figurative whipping from your child to get you going on your parental duties. This is referred to by the Greek root word παιδεία (Latin: paideia), translated "chastisement" and "chasteneth", and refers to centering oneself and one's emotional drives in the Lord. 

This discipline is to be modeled to children. It says in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor thy father and mother, as this is the first commandment with promise; That is may be well with thee, and thou mayest live upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to anger: but bring them up the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία, the same word used in Heb. 12:5-8, and refers here to charring and replenishing oneself as a parent in relation to children in the Lord, meaning self-discipline and self-control in relation to children, through rebuking and scolding oneself in the Lord for transgressions against one's child. Even with pedophilic parents or adults, I don't recommending charring a child (thinking about one unattractive aspect of the child), but charring oneself in relation to a child. An adult is entitled to nothing good and rewarding, and everything bad and harsh, from children. Adults need to chasten themselves up in a listening way towards their own children, earning their keep. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νυθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the admonition of the Lord, meaning a simple "no" or one of the various variants of said word, only seldom, as children cannot always absorb the reasons why something is wrong due to developmental and cognitive incapacity. This is weighed by the Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath", which is παροργιζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to the offenses in the Bible, meaning torts and damages such as assault and battery laws that extended to children in terms of protection, with this being summed up in the New Testament as the slightest of offense taken by the child, stemming from entitled treatment, meaning treatment stemming from want to the point of seeking to impose said want onto a child, leading to abuse by way of offense taken.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest and trust in parents where one can tell parents anything and be oneself in relation to parents, leading to children hearing their parent's voice, understanding based on developmental maturity, and listening instinctively to the voice of parents out of familiarity and trust, knowing one won't be punished. It is a form of obedience where children are allowed to make demands, and parents must find a way to accommodate most of them, including benign wants, as needs, especially attachment needs such as a walk in the park, a trip to a restaurant, or otherwise spending time together. This is stemmed from Christian love, meaning the Greek root word translated αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to surrender to God through one's child as their enemy, just as mankind is the enemy of God and submits accordingly, with parents and other adults having power and control over children to be quelled. Parents are to sacrifice for their children as Christ sacrificed for His children, rendering oneself beneath one's child, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with the child being extended by God for care and protection.

Parenting in ancient Israel and adjoining churches was attachment based, as an enforced norm. The rod of correction was symbolic in parenting for setting limits and boundaries, but more so encouragement. There were two rods, the rod of encouragement and the rod of severity, with the rod of encouragement preferred thrice to the rod of severity, in which case the latter rod was not punitive in nature, but firm in a warm manner in terms of teaching a lesson. Parents were very close to children then, with children not leaving the side of the mother, with very young children up to age 3 being swaddled next to their mother, with even toddlers up to age 3 being treated as the infants that they are.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them suffer the second death which is the lake of fire and brimstone! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!