Many parents claim to love and accept their children, yet don't. They punish and control their children, exerting their adult power and control as a parent. The fact of the matter is that parenting is not about "being the boss" and is about surrender. Surrendering yourself to children as a parent. That is what parenting is about.
Every single parent/adult is guilty merely for existing in relation to children, and is to surrender to God through their child as their enemy, just as mankind is the enemy of God, knowing one's capacity and ignorance in relation to children in terms of harm and abuse. This involves sacrificing for one's child just as Christ sacrificed for His children, turning oneself into the guard that is your child, just as Christ did for a crime He didn't commit. Parents are to devalue themselves as a servant for their children, leading to good works for their child. The Greek root word for this Christian love is αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to service to your neighbor, including your child, just for the sake of doing good, leading to total acceptance of a child as children are grateful and listening. It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:
Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest this become discouraged.
The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable trust and rest in the care and safety of parents, being able to say anything, do anything, or be oneself in relation to parents, and not fear punishment or reprisal, leading to hearing the voice of parents, understanding what parents ask of them, and obeying not out of fear of their voice, but out of familiar comfort. This is how I obey and honor my mother. I even can recognize her keys over anyone else's once I hear them, and her footstep somehow. This can happen AFTER apologizing to children about abuse towards them, not just BEFORE. My mother used time-out, and it didn't work. I just got extremely enraged and just couldn't sit still as a toddler. I can still make demands and jump up and down begging like I could as a child with my mom, like I can't with anyone else.
That's how parents were in biblical times, with children ranging close to mothers, playing freely otherwise, instinctively not leaving her side. Children were swaddled next to their mother, with infancy lasting up to age 3. Attachment parenting was the norm in ancient Israel and adjoining churches, particularly in Jewish circles in the Early Church. The Early Church did have child abuse problems which the Apostle Paul cracked down in the churches at Colossae and Ephesus respectively - he was not a perfect man, and he admitted it even in Holy Writing, but used his religious anger for the right reasons, or tried to. This happened to be chosen as Holy Writing, and we need this in churches ever more than before. The Hebraic understanding of parenting is based on attachment, not fear of punishment or authority. That is an idolatrous Greco-Roman concept that has seeped into our Church by way of Catholic infiltration.
Obeying the voice of parents means feeling safe in a perky way, like a gentle pull, when your parents call your name - meaning not dread at all. Same when someone wants to call your parents. Both of my abusive parents apologized, so I know both sides of the aisle. My parents were more effective at understanding and empathizing with me AFTER apologizing in my mid-teens. They surrendered to me, and I am grateful. I might not show it sometimes, but I am...The one thing to know in parenting is that the more your child demands things, and the louder, the more grateful they are of you. Why? That's your job - to provide for them.
The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Corporal punishment of children shall not exist within the several states and territories of the United States of America, and once a parent identifies with such abuse, they shouldn't exist, but since murder is wrong, they shall simply not exist on this earth once all is banned - and God ordained it all. Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!
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