Pro-social demand - Why children have the right to make demands to parents (and vice versa)

Many parents demand things of their children, meaning in terms of lawful orders or simply telling children what to do in terms of expectations. In proper biblical parenting, children have the right to make demands on parents instead. It is part of a child's surrender to parents.

It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey their parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the care and safety of parents, being able to share anything or be oneself in relation to parents, owing absolutely nothing in relation to parents, yet nonetheless showing gratitude towards parents by listening to them and heeding instruction, hearing a parent's voice, understanding the instructions given, then following the voice in an attached manner, with a sense of warm familiarity. This stems from Christian love for children, as denoted in the New Testament by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to submission to the every vulnerable need of children as their enemy, being convicted of one's non-existence merely for having the capacity to harm a child, sacrificing for one's child, just as Christ sacrificed for His children, expecting absolutely nothing in return, rendering oneself beneath a child, devaluing yourself in relation to her, ministering to and serving children, with children being extensions of God, being in place of Him to serve and care for. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and literally translates to "stirring up" children, referring to the offenses within the legal context of the Bible, namely the torts and damages system implied by the Eighth Commandment, summed up in the New Testament as the slightest of offense taken by a child stemming from an entitled act from an adult. Entitlement denotes the Tenth Commandment, and is cross-referenced by the Greek root word translated πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers not merely to wanting things from children, but to wanting things to the point of seeking to impose said want onto a child, leading to abuse by way of offense taken.

Children should impose their wants onto you. Attachment parenting was the norm in the Bible, with children ranging close to mothers, with young children swaddled next to mothers. Children demanded needs. They would cry and scream, and instead of being punished, parents would diagnose the cry as some sort of need, and provide using trial and error, listening to the frustrations of children. Pro-social demand was a concept for children then, not parents. Children were provided for fully, in providing custody, and then children instinctively listened to the reassuring voice of their parents, perhaps in a situation where listening would save their life...Parents were safe people to unload around and be oneself.

Children have the right to demand from parents what they need, as well as benign wants, and all needs should be given. Benign wants are a need, and should be treated as an attachment need. A benign want might be wanting goodies at the store, or perhaps spending time with a parent. This ensures that parents remain the safe people for children that God intended them to be.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! Let the parents rot and burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!