Children self-protect/adults abstain - Child rule from beneath in the Bible

Many parents and other adults abuse children, with 94% of parents physically battering their children, with 1/3 of such parents abusing their children within the realm of the law. Adults can abstain from child abuse, and children self-protect, protecting themselves from abuse. Rule from beneath is a biblical concept, and is a concept in my home. 

My mom knows to give me my every need, and I am grateful for that. Childhood demands are a form of beneath rule, and parents are beholden to such lawful and binding demands from a child. It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as this is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable trust and rest in the care and safety of parents, knowing one can be oneself in relation to children, being able to confide anything and everything to parents, owing absolutely nothing in relation to parents, with children nonetheless listening out of trust and not out of fear of punishment. This is prompted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) which refers to submission to the every need of a child as their enemy, with all adults guilty of their mere existence in relation to children due to their capacity to harm children, sacrificing for their children just as Christ sacrificed for His children, expecting absolutely nothing in return, rendering oneself beneath a child, devaluing oneself as a mere servant for a child, ministering to and serving the child as an extension of God, convicted as an entitled parent/adult as such. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to the offenses, namely the torts and damages under the Mosaic Law, including assault and battery torts that extended to children in terms of protection, with punishing a child being kidnapping (see "held in his own hand" in relation to hostage/ultimatum situations). It is basically the slightest of offense from a child coming from any entitled behavior. 

Commandments against the provocation of anger give children today a moral legal outlet for assertiveness, which is the definition of children self-protect. "Self-protect" refers to a child defending themselves against abuse, and being able to report parents to the authorities. Adults, however, should abstain from all abusive attitudes towards a child, to the point of the slightest raise of voice or stray offensive gaze towards a child. Children can hold you accountable for some time, but then you have to own up to your mistakes, and take responsibility for your actions towards children, ideally in a way that you call yourself the abuser in order to char yourself in the Lord for abuse in relation to child...Children rule from beneath as adults set limits and boundaries, keeping adults in check when they aren't doing so themselves. Checks and balances in terms of mutual submission.

Attachment parenting was the norm then, and such parenting does follow the children self-protect/adults abstain criteria. Though parents were technically the head of their children, this was a providing custody where children were charges to a parent caregiver. They otherwise had a lot of rights, as well as leeway to demand needs and supplements from their parents. Parents to minor children were servants in the Early Church, and extensions of Christ in terms of sacrifice, self-crucifying themselves in a figurative manner to provide for their children, swaddling little children next to parents. Christ states in Matthew 25:45-46 KJV:

Then shall he answer them, saying, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye did it not unto me, ye did it not unto me. And these shall go into everlasting punishment: but the righteous into life eternal.

Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!