What is parental entitlement? What is abuse?

Many parents these days are entitled, and abuse their children. Most do, in fact. 94% of parents punish their children physically, and about 1/3 might devolve into illegal physical abuse. What is the number one cause of abuse? Entitlement, namely parental entitlement. You can count that every single abuser of a child is entitled. 

Entitlement is not the same as self-interest. We all have self-interest in relation to children of some sort. The idea is not to concern the child with your own self-interests, with the assumption that they are your neighbor, and your neighbor is an extension of God for you to treat with respect. 

The Greek root word translated πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers not only to wanting things from a child, but wanting things to the point of seeking to impose said want on a child, leading to theft/abuse. It is a toxic attitude of "I am the parent, and I deserve respect" leading to visible demanding, controlling, or sexualizing attitudes or behavior towards children. Child abuse can be understood further in Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and literally translates to "stir up" and refers to the offenses under the Mosaic Law in relation to children. The offenses were a web of damages and torts connected to the Eighth and Tenth Commandment, simplified by the death and resurrection of Christ to mean the slightest of personal slights against a child, coming from the entitled intent stated abovementioned paragraph.

There are two components to every moral crime except fornication, which involves visible intent alone hitting the child or leading a person to act in a vagrant manner. Guilty intent (mens rea) leading to/guided by guilty action (actus reus), with the offensive behavior, speech, or presence guiding the intent of the perpetrator, unless said abuser can give a pro-social reason for the offended perception, meaning one that does not involve control, manipulation, or punishment, meaning if you don't have entitled reasons for lashing out at a child, you aren't an abuser. This means, in practice, that removing a child from a busy street is acceptable force, and thus nor entitlement, but spanking them afterwards is entitlement leading to abuse, and thus everything that occurred beforehand ends up being seen as unlawful to God, namely steps refused to avoid that outburst. However, if a parent denounces their own behavior, and makes amends with their child, they are guilty yet not guilty. "Guilty" refers to the damage done, meaning its done and can't be taken back, whereas "not guilty" in the same phrase means no guilt in terms of entitlement. Apologizing for lawful spanking and punishment is basically apologizing to your child for something you can't take back. It's that serious.

Parenting in the biblical context was attachment-based in nature, meaning co-sleeping and other forms of close bonding was acceptable. Punishment then was