Why parents can only control themselves in parenting

 Many parents in this country abuse children, meaning most. 94% of parents punish and control their children. Most child abuse is about power and control, usually over "benign" situation where the adult worries in a way that is controlling.

It says in Exodus 20:17 KJV:

Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor's house, thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor anything that is thy neighbour's.

The Greek root word translated "covet" is לחמוד (Latin: lachmod) and refers to not simply wanting things from a child, but wanting to the point of seeking to impose said want on a child. This can include provocations to anger in parenting, which is a form of inflicting damages onto one's child, referring to legal damages and not "tainting" a child victim - the Eighth Commandment was seen in the biblical context as opening the way for tort law, with the assault and battery covering battery against a child. A provocation to anger involves upbraiding your neighbor, including your child, with harshness or fits of anger. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to an entitled attitude of "I am a good parent, so I deserve respect and honor", leading to a demanding, pushy, punitive, or peerifying/spousifying attitude. It says, in command to fathers and mothers, in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor thy father and mother, as this is the first commandment with promise; May it be well with thee, and may thou live long upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath, but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers more to the obligations of parents, referring to a state of care and attention where children are obligated to give nothing in back, while enjoying unconditional love from a parent, with Christian love being denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο and refers to submission to the child from an adversarial slant, with the child demanding needs in place of God. If you dishonor what a child needs from you, you dishonor what God needs from you. It is surrender to a child's needs, overthrowing the authoritarian attitudes that are encouraged by the world, leading to children surrendering and finding rest in the shelter, love, and grace of parents. It is like a file folder, with a parent paging through and you not caring, knowing parents mean well. They are pals, and you honor them as your pal and friend, inseparable until death take the parent away.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to discipline, namely self-discipline and self-control in relation to the child, next to the child, in the form of co-regulation. This means centering yourself as a parent or similarly charged adult in a way that listens to the child's every vulnerable need, like a sounding board, with parents being stand-by listeners to their children. This also refers to gentle instruction in religion and morals, with children getting lectured on the Bible based on Socratic methods that allowed them to question their father's interpretation of the Law. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to stating boundaries and limits, basically knowing to when to use the word "no", namely rarely. Only once and a while should a child hear a firm "no", and it should be met with love and attention from a parent

You can only control one person on this planet as a parent and as a human being - yourself. You can't control your child, or anyone around you. There is no way to control another person, for sure, for sure. You can only control yourself and your own choices, and hope others follow suit. Or, accept that you can't get the child to do something, and simply be at odds in disagreement with the child. I'd rather my child believe like me in God, but if she becomes atheist, I wouldn't question her, but any adult who was hanging around her, meaning any adult that has an increase in intensity to their religious beliefs, in a way that is entitled towards children. Maybe something happened at a sleepover with a friend, so you assume nothing and invite conversation. Or, maybe he/she is a pedophile, meaning they grew up but their attractions didn't.

The depraved, entitled parents who provoke their children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them suffer and languish in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!