Why to ask children, not order - How to talk to children

 Many adults in this country believe that children are under adult control, and at the same time there is a child abuse epidemic, and don't connect the two. Parents are evil not for any specific nature of theirs, as much as the opportunity society gives them to "screw children over". Thinks ledge overhead, keeping children on leash, and having power over every single facet of their life, usually in terms of monetary sources. A child is incapable of signing a contract without an parent or parent in loco parentis, and thus owns nothing, thus is a slave by the biblical tense. The idea behind children's rights is to humble yourself at the child's level. I abdicate my authority over children, and renounce any position of power and control over children. I am the friend of children, divorced due to my own actions.

Do parents have the right to order around children? Nope. The Tenth Commandment denotes the commandment against entitlement, which is cross-referenced in the New Testament by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to wanting things, including favors, to the point of seeking to impose said request onto a child, leading to abuse/theft, at the slightest of personal slights perceived from a child, as further denoted in Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and literally translates to "stir up" or "upbraid", meaning damages inflicted upon a child, both momentary and long-term. Momentary damages include pain, shame, emotional abuse, defamation of character, larceny, and/or fornication. Long term damages are referenced by the Greek root word αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers to long-term trauma, perhaps evidenced by a clinical diagnosis of PTSD, BPD, NPD, or other disorder borne out of trauma.

Entitlement, in parenting, is the attitude of "I am the parent, and I own you, so listen to me" leading to demanding, controlling, or punitive behavior towards children. Parents and caregivers are forbidden, by Divine Codified Ordinance, from issuing forceful orders or demands on a child. It is better to plead with a child who refuses to listen, than to forcefully reprimand them. This is known as pro-social vulnerability, pro-social (possible) tears. The tears part also applies when you are a father.

Begging a child is not acceptable parenting in all cases. If you are begging for a self-interest of yours, it is entitlement.

• Good use of pro-social vulnerability: "Please stop treating me this way. I don't know what to do. What do you want?"
• Antisocial "vulnerability": "Please, why do you hate me. Why don't you like me?"

If you cannot distinguish between these two statements, then you shouldn't be a parent. The first refers to misbehavior of the child, and the parent turning the other cheek, being infinitely forgiving as parents should strive to be. If you actually are begging anything from the child, and expecting a result, you are entitled as a parent. 

Parents should expect nothing from children, and simply ask and hope things. I don't expect anything from a child, as I don't impose standards on children. Expectations in parenting revolve around consequences and punishment, so why have any? I simply hope children are nice to me, given the struggles I have as an adult in relation to children. They can be complete bullies and there must be a reason for it.

If I were to give directions towards a child, it would be in the form of asking them kindly to "do me a favor", and only with respect to their wishes and time. Otherwise, I'd have to find a way to do it myself. If this was a parenting relationship, I'd hope to have the level of trust where they'd just listen to me, and not argue. That never happens in punitive parenting relationships, even as much as such parents would like to brag about their "obedient son/daughter" who "never disobeys or embarrasses me, because they know that they'll get a little whack on the butt when they get home". 

I have no magical powers to impose expectations on any child. Children don't need expectations. They need a healthy, loving environment where they can impose strict expectations on themselves, with encouragement and without punishment.

I control nobody. I control no child especially. I only control myself for sure. Entitlement in parents is based in controlling attitudes and views towards children. The entitled parents will burn in Hell!