Many parents loathe this concept - putting your child before you. However, that's just how the cookie crumbles. Children are more vulnerable, and thus in a humbled and oppressed place in society. Who is the the enemy of children? Us. Authoritarian gentle parenting/children's rights has nothing to do with parent paternalism or authority, but the reverse - children are the God-ordained lawful authority over all adults, because the reverse has led to oppression of children.
I am afraid of a child, but for lawful reasons - I have wronged that constituency, and now must atone by holding myself accountable to their godly, lawful righteous judgment. She is a darling young 12-year-old girl, with a hand on her torso, shouting at me lawfully binding orders as to what she needs, and I am convicted of my depraved adult nature that is inherent in me. Warmth. Love. Thunderbolt. Jolt. Then action, out of reverent fear. This is denoted in the Bible by the Greek root word ψοβός (Latin: phobos). It is a fear that jolts one up, then places them down, in the form of comfy terrorism. You know where you stand, because they let you know, because they expect no punishment from you - and NO child should ever expect punishment, and FOOK the parents that oppose me and the movement on that account, meaning anti-CR.
Every single adult is convicted by God as culpable for the child abuse epidemic in this country. What is necessary? Pro-social renounce, pro-social give up. We want you to give up something for children, and we're not talking about one small symbolic token - we want you to give up your authority over them, and be their best friend. Pro-social renounce leads to pro-social avoidance/escape, meaning avoidance of saying "no" out of convenience, and only saying such a powerful word when absolutely necessary, such as when a request is immoral, illegal, or not possible, and with listening and validation during and after the tantrum, not EVER punishment.
It is rearranging your parenting choices in a driven habitual way, driven by the Holy Spirit, which guides pro-social parenting instincts. A parent, by default, is a tool of the devil - an entitled cord - but can be replenished by the convicted gentle parenting choices of parents and other adults.
I am the property of all children, including the ones I have inflicted abuse against, in which case I am grateful for their undeserving forgiveness.
Parents these days think that they alone rule the roost, and can order their children around like servants. No, THEY are servants to a master - their child. Their child has all the rights, and those are inherent. An adult must earn rights in relation to children, or else be gone, meaning we know where they are headed, so a weight lifted.
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