Why control in parenting is sin

Parenting in American culture is about control and dominion over children. It is a common phrase in the legal realm is "I have control over a child" or "His/her parents have legal control over a child until age 18.". How about no control? That is my view as a parent. Instead, total acceptance, coming from total submission to the child's every vulnerable need, as is God's order of things, and will be until the end of time. 

It says in 1 Corinthians 5:11 KJV:

But now I have written not to keep company, if any man that is guilty be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolater, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with one an one not to eat.

The Greek root word translated "covetous" refers to entitlement, and is denoted by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to wanting something from children to the point of seeking to impose said want onto a child, in the form of theft/abuse, with said abuse being further defined and spelling out in Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger " is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to "stirring up" or "upbraiding" children, meaning being overly harsh. Ultimately, this refers to legal damages under the Mosaic Law, namely pain, shame, defamation of character, fornication, and dereliction of parental duties, motivated by entitled and controlling attitudes in parenting - and those attitudes need to go.

Many parents want to control in various ways. I'm not like most parents, in that I want my child to exist, but naturally exist as my friend, and when she isn't, I "beg for mercy" with my paws out (usually with a "I've got stuff to do" attitude). Other parents want top down control, meaning they see a child as part of them, and want to control, as opposed to see a child as a separate, autonomous person that you want to "come here" or else "go over to see them"...I never slip these days as a symbolic parent, as I know now that I messed up as a caregiver, knowing the evidence that sexual abuse harms for a lifetime.

"Dereliction of parental duties" does not mean physical punishment, but the opposite, meaning if you punish a child in the course of providing custody, meaning attachment in parenting is a command from God, to ensure trust and security in a child's surrender to parents. It is surrender coming from surrender - the surrender of the parent, selflessly and dutifully being subject to the every vulnerable need of a child, with the child being the high judge, on the high bench, at the high pillar over the parents, issuing lawful and binding orders as to care and protection, by demonstrating their needs to parents. Do you not know that it is sin even to control a child for "back talk"? Do you not know that striking or punishing a child is provocation to anger? Do you not know that it is wrong to control a child for any reason. 

Depart from me, O sinful parent, if you see a child as an object of control, and defend it, you depraved scum.