"We're pals": The goal in Christian parenting (parents should heel to children)

 Many parents in this country preach obedience, but don't know what obedience is. Many think obedience is heeding threat of punishment. It can be, but not always, and never with children. The phrase "we're pals" should be the goal of every parent, in terms of their attitude of non-entitlement, meaning their child also. It is called pro-social heel, pro-social submission. It is the lowest, deepest, yet highest and most pious form of gentle parent, usually expressed casually.

I see myself as a servant when caring for a child. Stoic. Attendant. Servile. Righteous slave. Indentured servitude. Those are my Christian parenting values. That's all I am to them. Some vending machine they leave alone, because they know it might just eat their change, and I don't even care. Biblical parenting does not hail parenting as kings or queens, but more alongside the level of waiter and waitress. Server at a lunch counter or fast food joint. 

On spreadsheets, the phrase "we're pals" often comes up in parent investigations. This designation, with corresponding evidence, suggests that parent and child are connected at every level, in terms of attachment. It says in Colossians 3:20 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to surrender coming from surrender, with "surrender" meaning secure attachment. Secure attachment can exist at various levels, guided by the closeness between parent and child, and the absence of punishment or other aversive stimuli. "We're pals" gaslighting oftentimes occurs when a child has a very low-level mental We're pals. That's what parenting is - not leadership or kingship, but indentured servitude and health disorder, such as pedophilia, and thus acceptance of the individual despite the illness leads to closeness in terms of ability to share information. I can tell my mother everything, about any event in my life, about any feeling I feel, or any struggle of mine, and she'll just listen, and maybe give advice. bondservice.

"Indentured servitude" refers to the wicked, evil, and entitled nature of parents and adults, whereas parents are consigned to a position to pay penance for their sin, as a form of community service, meaning they are lawfully and selflessly charged to submit to their children as their enemy, not knowing what it is like to be a child, expecting absolutely nothing in return. This is Christian love is denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao).

It is heeling to a child, with submission to a child being adversarial, meaning seeing oneself as their adversary and enemy, denoted by the Greek root word υποτασσο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to obedience out of reverent fear, with such being denoted by the Greek root word ψοβός (Latin: phobos), or fear of one's one nature in relation to others, prompting the parent to discipline and control themselves in relation to children.

"We're pals" can have a negative meaning in gaslighting spreadsheets, if only the parent says it, and the child perceives abuse from the parent or adult. By default, however, it is the ultimate level of gentle parenting, in terms of closeness. Like a co-op...The slight similarity to incestuous relationship is something that makes gentle parents look bad. Those who misuse gentle parenting for this purpose tend to be male, not female, and have pedophilic disorder. Pedophilia, in terms of attachment, simply is attachment to children conflated with sexual aggression. Actual gentle parenting, in that regard, would involve self-control and self-discipline that would lead to healthy distance from the child target of sexual entitlement...Being pals with children just for the sake of creating a sexual relationship is immoral, whereas it isn't that big of a deal if you can shove the attraction totally aside, to the level of din. If you have lust attractions, meaning you yearn for sexual activity with them, you should leave the child and the situation.