Antisocial "worry": Why worrying too much about your child can lead to abuse

Most parents worry about their children. Parents can worry about many things, and this is oftentimes healthy. However, "worry" can be unhealthy and abusive if the child perceives it as such. Antisocial "worry" is a form of child abuse that comes from unlawful expression of parental worry, as determined by the child's emotional reaction.

The Greek root word repeating the Tenth Commandment, and denoting entitlement, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektes) and refers to wanting a child to be well, to the point of seeking to impose the parent's standards of wellness onto the child victim. It is worrying too much about a child, to the point where the parent's wellness reality is conflated with the child, and said child is either dehumanized as a "sick animal" to pity and/or a sickly being conflated with the parent's identity.

It can be pictured as badgering a child for an unlawful purpose. The image is often following the child around and restricting their every movement because "I'm worried". It can actually be a core motive for lawful physical abuse and false imprisonment of children. My case involved me wanting to do "grown up" things such as ride a bicycle in the middle of a busy street in city, all to prove that children had some rights by having vehicular rights - until I was told by some cop that my parents owned the bicycle, and so we got a bicycle license. Not the only power struggle, but one of many. I was one to prompt adults to follow rules, such as wearing seatbelts, obeying traffic signals, and such. I was often punished "for his safety" with spanking or false imprisonment/time-out tactics.

Worry is a common emotion around children. However, a parent must make sure their worry is valid in nature, meaning is what they seeing really there. An extreme example of this is factitious disorder by proxy, where a parent feigns a mental disorder or serious disease in a child for attention, either by seeing a doctor, and/or by spreading hysterical rumors. Entitled parents may do similar things in terms of not allowing children to have a cell phone when all the other peers have phones, keep children indoors and order "don't play outside", or stomp on play at all or altogether - all of this, by letter of description, is abuse. Children should be allowed freedom to roam and experiment, with parents and adults simply being a broad shelter that broadens as the child gets older.

When a child is insistent on running into the street, hold them in a specific way, meaning with the parent's legs crossed, and the child gentle being held up with a gentle embrace. I had the type of autism that involved elopement, and that is what my mother would do. They don't always elope from abusive situations. Picture walking down a busy street, and I see a fan. I liked fans. I even remember the snapshot...Sometimes, even in gentle parenting, parents need to put their hands on a child. However, only in life or death situations. It is the child equivalent of a friend physically removing another friend from a ledge, where one might commit suicide, and hold them down until the EMS got there. But, an adult is only use the amount of force necessary to avert imminent risk of death or bodily injury. Any physical contact other than that must be within the child's consent. You can read all these consent rules into Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to any damages imposed against a child. Sometimes, this can be merely helping somebody, because they don't want your help. This commandment was written to the Christian Church at Colossae, and warned Christian fathers that children were like a mirror, whatever traits you impose on your child is whatever they will impose back. If you worry coercively, they will, but the only difference is that children are self-centric, in the sense that they only care about themselves, in order to survive.

If you worry a lot as a parent, you will not coerce children due to your worry. You will not imprison or seclude children due to your worry. You shall not remove their rights, due to your worry. You are allowed to worry, but in collaboration with the child, and while being willing to admit that your concerns were unfounded. You understand?..Nobody has to be "grateful" for "antisocial" worry. Gratitude is if something is genuinely helpful, in which case the helper would be grateful for feedback from the helpee as well.