What is discipline? Many think it is punishment. Others think it is teaching. Both off in varying ways. It is self-punishment, guided by verbal teaching and instruction, in the biblical tense. What does this mean? Christian family values are based on the concept of self-control. If you are controlling your children, even if it is popular, you are missing the main gist.
It says in Ephesians 6:1-3 KJV:
Children, obey your parents in all things, as this is right in the Lord. Honor thy father and mother, which is the first commandment with promise. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to anger: but bring them to the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to surrender of a secure, peaceable sort with parents, with children being able to tell parents anything. It is a pro-social cocoon, where parents are confidants from beneath yet from above, kneeling to the children while position slightly hereunder the child's line of sight, with the child not being embarrassed by parents. Children are extensions of God, meaning placed in front of parents, for providing custody. Providing custody refers to indentured servitude towards the child
Pro-social challenge means creating a challenge with an older child as to where to become disciplined in life. It is first sitting down with a child of about 11 or 12, and saying "You need to become more disciplined, meaning having better behavior habits and organization". The discussion then evolves into how to center oneself as an individual, by changing habits. "Why not drink soda without caffeine instead? You drink a lot of soda, and it keeps you up all night. Why not drink Mug root beer instead". Or point out, as an equal and friend, anywhere that they need to stop slacking. This is for older children, and never young children.
But, then, the child may tell you to give up soda. Are you ready for some adult tears, because I'd just give it up...with hesitation, and then I'd get used to not drinking Barq's root beer.
Child discipline as a whole works this way. The child emulates a behavior from a parent, then it becomes a habit of the child's as well. The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to Christian discipline, or locus of self-control based on "I am evil" self-talk. The Greek root word νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to verbal warning and correction when the child didn't do as asked, "I told you to take out the trash, so please take it out, will ya". Parents are only allowed to give lawful yet non-binding orders, whereas the needs of a child are lawful and binding on the parents..."I am evil" can be substituted for "I am not worthy" and such an attitude is modeled by the parents.
Children need discipline. They just don't need punishment, manipulation, or control from parents and adults. Those that defend such entitlement will burn in Hell!
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