Self-control and pedophilia: Why most don't need to be controlled (reassurance for survivors from an unlikely peer)

The children's rights movement in the United States has a very unique pedophile problem, where the pedophile has problems. In most countries, including the United States, pedophile rape gangs have arisen in movements, from an advocate's bench, like organized crime, meaning it literally is a form of organized crime targeting trauma. Usually, though, we survivors easily control these sexually entitled adults, and false pedophiles, are easy to control. "False" because they don't deserve a medical excuse. Most of us don't pull that crap. Most of us have trauma, and are very hurt by our abusive parents...What happens when you can't control a child? Good sign. Red light turns to green.

Pedophiles, at the risk of oversimplification, can either have very entitled traits and/or very non-entitled traits, meaning centered. 3 out of 4 pedophiles choose not to abuse children. Who is your average pedophile, in terms of centering? The progressive, modern guy. Introverted, in a controlled way. We end up having stronger self-control than our non-pedophile peers...Think the guy who is quiet around children, in a gentle parenting way.'

My understanding as an advocate is that predatory pedophiles have these traits in common:

1. Sexually entitled attitudes towards children, or other child hating characteristics
2. Lack of self-control
3. Ideological/religious belief that abuse was okay

The third is the most important, and this applies to all parents in relation to children. It is the individual choice of the pedophile to submit to the needs of children. Non-offending pedophiles are the reverse of these traits.

Someone with strong self-control cannot be controlled. They won't let you, even if they do. This goes for all adults, not just pedophiles. If you defend your right to abuse a child in any way while identifying by a sexual attraction to children, you a parent, not a pedophile. A pedophile who admits themselves fully to me is, at worst, a struggling/regret abuser.