Pro-social role reversal, with lightswitch application, with children controlling parents; pro-social conviction of original sin

Many parents are terrified of the concept of a role reversal, and want to be in charge of their children. Most parents in America see themselves as above their children, with parents controlling children from above. That is how the Bible prescribes parents to raise children. Proper parenting of a child is like a light switch.

In the biblical context, parenting was not position of power and control over a child, like it is today, but a position of servitude and submission towards a child. The word "parent" does not exist anywhere in the Old Testament. Only the words "father" (HEB: אָב, ab) and mother (HEB: אֵם, em) appear in the Hebrew Bible. The word "parent" only appears a few times in the Pauline Epistles, denoted by the word γονευν (GRK: goneus) and refers to a "begetter", as cited from the Blue Letter Bible. Pave the way. 

What is the biblical definition of "pave the way"? Trust. The presumption, in parenting, is that your child hates you, and fears you because you are bigger than them, and thus can overpower them. Their first reaction is to control parents, and demand that they get what they want/need. A child is in complete and utter control of me, as a symbolic parent in relation to them, with me trembling in reverent fear and terror of their every vulnerable need, with said fear denoted by the Greek root word ψοβος (Latin: phobos). 

It is a specific type of fear of letting your child down, and offending their needs and safety. Steeple hill. Courthouse. It is this type of righteous terror and conviction, putting a child on a high pillar, with her being the judge of all in your parenting relationship/friendship, striking terror, shame, and hatred of one's own adult nature in relation to her, leading to submission to God, with one's child as His extension to her. She is the law, meaning the law over her own needs and interests. She is bigger than me for being smaller than me.

In order to win over and earn the respect of a child, one must be cooperative and obedient with their needs, and respectful to their needs and boundaries. I, by default, am segregated from children by God's Divine Jurisprudence, to the level of presence, or at least speech (that's what I want - be her friend, then hang out, then do other things). Only when children want to interact, and indicate that they wish for the conversation to be on casual terms, with me then - and only then - freely conversing and talking to a child. 

Eventually, the lightswitch switches up, and I earn my keep as the parent, and earn the right to be a parent to the child. In the biblical context, that was the case. Parenting was, indeed, attachment based, with boys remaining with their mother until age 6, and girls until age 12. Punishing a child, in that culture, was a violation of Jewish law, and punishment could only occur within a court of law, and only men over age 13 were legal subjects. Anyone under the age of majority could not be charged. Infancy lasted until age 3, and children were breastfed until that age as well. The father stood there, and was the primary protector of the home. The mother had the right to protect her children, even from the father, despite him being the head of the household.

Basically, children hate your guts, usually based in fear of you harming or hurting them for being bigger than them. As you treat them with respect anyway, and submit to them and their needs on their level, you grow in significance and worth to them, and the roles switch - if you are a parent, earn your keep, and earn your respect. Don't demand it. Colossians 3:20 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to a certain surrender to parents, preferably at a young age - secure, vulnerable attachment to parents, always trusting in them, knowing that one can talk to them anytime, including about uncomfortable subjects that others might not understand.

The depraved, entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn! Let them suffer in the lake of fire and brimstone, suffering the second death! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!